Re: when a husband passes away
I can give you that and much more, although I'm surprised you don't know of it, since you frequent the religion forums quite a bit - its been quoted here well enough.
*"O you prophet, why do you prohibit what God has made lawful to you, just to please your wives?" 66:1 *
The Prophet went ahead and apparently forbid SOMETHING that God had not forbidden. And he, even being a Prophet, was reprimanded! So, don't go around thinking that something you get off some religious website is going to be accurate, and true, Sadiyah NECESSARILY just because its from a religious website!
More proof as to the role of the Prophet and the ultimate and completeness of the Quran as a source of laws to be implemented in society.
"The sole duty of the messenger is to deliver the message" 5:99
Note the word "sole"! And this is God talking, not me.
"Shall I seek other than God as a source of Law......" 6:114
In this ayah if you look it up, it claims God is the only source of Law. So where do Hadith lie? And this is a categorical statement by the way, so no need to pull in any other verses to justify using hadith.
And here's a nice little token for all of you that DO want to blindly follow hadith, which are written by man and CLAIMED to be the words of the prophet, and are blindly followed by every arhay gharay who most likely doesn't even know that hadith are categorized as weak, sahih etc.
"The halal is that which Allah has made lawful in His Book and haram is that which He has forbidden, and that concerning which He is silent He has permitted as a favour to you."
So if God doesn't mention something explicitly in the Quran as not being allowed, then you cannot say it is not allowed - not even the Prophet can say that its not allowed. Just based on this hadith alone, loads of hadith's should be nullified. Additionally, many of these "religious websites" should not be followed either.
How can you follow the words of a person you don't even SEE? And I'm talking from experience, yes.