Re: what’s your take on this and what’s the Islamic take on this?
Peace coffeegirl,
Lets focus only on ‘dua’ by extracting ‘bad and good’ from it and keeping them aside. According to a hadith 'when a person made ‘dua’ (either good or bad), that dua sometime accepted and granted but some other time it is kept for later on and this is only Almighty Allah knows best whom ‘dua’ will be accepted instantly and whom ‘dua’ kept for later on, either for acceptance or rejection.
If you would like to see a situation Islamic-ally, then open and read the Holy Qur’an. You will came across word (“Allahawabilwalidayni ihsanan”) “and to parents do good”. ‘Parents’ Not Mother or Father but both. So technically you can’t decide at your end whom you should listen/respect more. It is our duty to respect and listen to both of them.
Now coming to the last part that ‘jannat lies under Mother’s feet and key to Jannat lies under dad’s feet’, <---- This can be achieved if we complete our duties towards our Mother and Father (both) in good way and that has nothing to do with our listening to both of them or either any one.
There is always two thing (1) duty and (2) rights. Your duty is to respect both of them without any single word and your rights is that you may agree/disagree with both or either any one but that doesn’t means in any sense that your should listen to your Mother more then your Father.
Hope I cleared your point.