What's wrong with girls?

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Dunno why the girls these days are so intolerant of their in laws. Atleast thats teh impression i get from their gossips.

They tolerate and get along with people at work place, with nosy peers, demanding bosses, prejudiced neighbourhoods, but just can’t digest anything if it comes from in laws specially MIL.

And most of teh time its just minor things. Mil said something about what i wear or what i cooked blah blah. Things that can easily be passed off.

And those aunties that piss you off so often, well i have found most of them to be very good persons. All you have to do is to give them some respect. On the wards everyone despised the “female” units bcoz of demanding middle aged and elderly women. But i like working with them, coz i have found that if you respect them they will be very loyal.

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^I think that's true, sometimes girls over react -- however, many of the other annoying people you mentioned do not interfere in the home. You can always escape them and have something for yourself. That is not always the case with interfering MILs.

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Its a common stereotype.

Its allowed.

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How are we going to prove ourselves desis if we dnt do tht :cb:

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in some cases it might be the girls...but not always..Alot of times in-laws can be pretty annoying aswell. I don't think guys can really ever understand what goes b/w the mil and the girl. Women are sneaky in their ways of getting on each other's nerves. While you maybe thinking why the MIL or the girl is over reacting...only they really know the real story.

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I disagree.

Please don't put the blame entirely on mother in laws

"in some cases it might be the girls...but not always..Alot of times in-laws can be pretty annoying aswell."

There are situations where the daughter-in-law is nasty and there are situations where the mother-in-law is nasty.

We tolerate more from other people, stuff that we would not tolerate from our in-laws.

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forget what’s wrong with them.. tell me what is RIGHT about them.. :hoonh: sari ki sari Bongiyaan… :o siwai AIK kai.. :phati:

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I agree Iconoclast with the last paragraph. DIL's have to respect everyone in the household plus all the Inlaws family. I have been told by my parents to maintain respect for everyone i come across even though its common sense to respect everyone although MIL situation is different.

You might not know it but DILs suffer alot behind their husbands back. MIL's would only talk to the DILs one the husband is not around. How are the husbands supposed to know how much we are going through? They are only going to find out once their wives talk to them from which things can be taken forward...if we are showing the MIL's respect, then we deserve some respect back and not treated like c**p. DIL's are new to the family and have no other motive than to treat the family nicely, have respect, do what she has to do etc etc and its not fair once they get the horrible treatment from the MIL!

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Interesting...
i was just thinking of this last few days, our mothers went through so much worse, mu ch more than whatever we've been thru or will go through....but still...they stayed..and they respected their in laws no matter what crap our dadkay put them through. on one hand u can say they had amazing loyalty, and strength and patienc to endure wha tthey did...but on the other hand, looking at women today, would it really be fair to hold them to that same standard, that they should be able to handle any and all forms of abuse coming from every which way and just keep quiet out of respect and obedience?

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not all women are like that, Iconclast.

and it all goes back to strong understanding couple, on equal footing, so everything is transparent between four parents and the couple.

gossip takes place, when the married young women are way younger than boy-men, are less educated females and they are socialized to be manipulative as that typical demanding and insensitive daughters in law.

gossip also takes place, when women in the in-laws treat the daughter in law as dirt. and that is not right and you know that, i hope.

also, very few young men, are mature IN REAL, to not have double standards.

those who mistake a truthful person, to be a threat, but are fine with a whining woman or man, behind backs, it is the fault of the mistaker not the whiner, even if they should not whine or be smart enough to change the in laws or themselves in positive ways, they wont.

and if men are alright with making their decision, at bidding of their forcing parents, then it will happen.

that is one of the main reason, why before marriage, ideally, a couple must sit together in person, and discuss these things, preventative measures that they will take to NOT ALLOW in laws from either side, to infringe on their own relationship as future husband and wife.

a male or a female who is a failure at that, and does not support someone who initially he/she advanced towards, such a person does not deserve a mature and honest spouse, unless his/her limited vision is cleared and can span over to mutual trust, care, regard, confidence in each other rather than make cheap alibis to remain stuck in the quick sand of miseries of pull and push between the in-laws and the respective spouse.

best,
Dushwari

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well i dont think all girls are like that, many do get along w/ their mils

and those who do complain about their mil, im sure they also complain about other ppl in their lives who are bothering them, its just human nature

as to why girls might complain about mil more than might seem necessary to you-- well unlike coworkers, neighbors etc, mil have a direct impact on your personal life, would you appreciate your mil telling you what to wear or what to cook or what to eat? nobody likes interference in their life, but we expect daughters-in-law to put up with more things than others and chalk it up to 'tradition' or 'respecting elders'

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what's wrong with girls?

guys who ask what's wrong with girls.

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We DO tolerate our in-laws that is why we live with them and try to love them but heres thing...when a girl leaves her house she has some dreams of her own...and i am talking about simple ones...like to make her husband fav dish...to go out with him...so when you see k you cant do that the girl has to react in some way....girls tolerate people at work place, nosy peers,demanding bosses, prejudiced neighbourhoods...cuz they are not together 24/7....i personally dont mind when my MIL tells me what to cook but i do mind when i am cooking and she is keeping an eye on me cuz i get all nervous and end up cooking terrible...i just cant work in pressure

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I didn't put the blame entirely on mother in laws...I said in some cases it might be the girls but not always.... Read carefully.

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Intolerance ain't a good quality in girls.

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Dunno why the girls these days are so intolerant of their in laws. Atleast thats teh impression i get from their gossips.

It can go both ways. dont forget that. Females (in general) are competitive beings...it's in their nature. Besides just because a girl complains about her MIL doesnt mean she is intolerant...it's possible she complains to others as a way of venting out her frustrations but is still respectful and tolerant of her MIL....no?

They tolerate and get along with people at work place, with nosy peers, demanding bosses, prejudiced neighbourhoods, but just can't digest anything if it comes from in laws specially MIL.

They dont have to deal with the above mentioned people on a personal level....24/7 for rest of their life.

And most of teh time its just minor things. Mil said something about what i wear or what i cooked blah blah. Things that can easily be passed off.

I agree with that....some girls can overreact....but on the flip side some mils can be quite critical as well especially if they have that "know girl is good enough for my son" mentality.

And those aunties that piss you off so often, well i have found most of them to be very good persons. All you have to do is to give them some respect. On the wards everyone despised the "female" units bcoz of demanding middle aged and elderly women. But i like working with them, coz i have found that if you respect them they will be very loyal.

There is a HUGE difference between an aunty and someone's MIL....keep in mind the dynamics of the relationship is different.

before we go on accusing DILs of their intolerance towards their MILS....we need to look at both sides of the story.

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1 reason for divorce is MARRIGES !!!

Lets end the reason for divorce and we won't have above problem either :LB:

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princeMS,
when you have taken the pacifier out, then the perspective will become better. :>
to add, marriages and divorces are not some union sets in math, that must go together. when the couple as a couple is caring for each others' feelings, and are both trustworthy, then no power in the world can create the imbalance or engage them in vindictive, hostile, unwelcoming attitude towards each other.

Best, Dushwari

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it's a 2 way street tbh, not all DIL's are bad neither are all MIL, one thing tho' is that nowadays more girls are taking a stance agaisnt horrible inlaws, whereas in generations before this was not as common, and or mother;s probably put up with it, thingz r changin now !!

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I blame the guys for this. If a man doesn’t know where to place his mother and his wife then such things are bound to happen. By the way, there is no reason why in-laws should criticise or tease a DIL for no reason. Why do they try to mould a girl who has a personality of her own, likes and dislikes, preferences etc.

Btw, you only listen to one side of the story, thats why you feel for these middle aged women :hehe: