Re: Whats up with the one-way gift giving?!?
^ lucky girls!!
The only reason why I think my family is going to have to give gifts to the khalaas and chachas and agay se unke bachay, etc. is because I have noted that my In-laws are doing that for THEIR daughter. And she’s isnt even marrying a Pakistani!!! They are buying loads of presents for people like the guy’s khalaa…and phupa’s…and their children… etc. So even though I am positive my in-laws will never ever say anything about receiving gifts … they are very nice people and wouldn’t be that rude… i still think there is this air of expectations created. And my mom has already promoted the gift giving by giving them things at the engagement. My mom may be starting to get stressed with this… but she is probably not annoyed… just because she also believes that its something our family does khushi ke liye.
I just find it annoying because I dont like this custom… particularly gift giving to extended family members. Like seriously … anyone please guide me… where is the cut off point??? These khalas and chachas and phupos all have kids… and their kids are married…and then their kids have kids. 
Who to give and who not to give?
Spiral - i think the gifts your mom gave was reasonable. And its also VERY reasonable keeping it to the immediate family. That makes sense even in my opinion. MashAllah I’m happy that your family has a wonderful understanding. May it always remain taht way.