Re: Whats up with the one-way gift giving?!?
I just feel like the gift giving thing isn’t done with the true spirit behind it… that of showing luv or celebrating the moment (or both).
I mean… it is said they are given for this reason… but larki walay should not have to say “its the right thing to do..thats why we have to give it”. And larkay walay should never have to say (or think) that they deserve more respect and more needs to be given for them… aka have expectations of any sort.
Plus a gift is a gift… people should be happy and satisfied with whatever they get and the gift giver shouldn’t be pressured into giving expensive things like gold. 
Whatever is given …khushi se do… or kushi se lo.
Actually alot of my moms friends were surprised that she was giving presents to the inlaws at time of the engagement. But my mom said that hamaari family mein hum yeh kartain hain. The whole family pressure bit. And sure, my mom and nani were ultimately really happy the gifts were given because you could tell that the inlaws were genuinely really happy.
But the point of annoyance for me is the issue of it being “one-way” and the pressure of the gift being “good enough/legit”.
It’s totally awesome that your in-laws gave your family presents pareezay … it is kinda unheard of 
But it also sucks that the gift was not the equivalent to what u gave them. I mean.. i know I am sounding hypocritical. Your family was prob so happy and excited to be getting anything from the larkay walay! But as their daughter it must have bothered u a bit. I know it would bother me (it would bother me more if I knew they gave nothing at all).
It just seems that the girl’s side always have to fork over more $ …