Re: Whats up with the one-way gift giving?!?
salam
as a forigner muslim girl i got sad to hear like this in some area culture...as islam says girl is barkat...then such customs bring burden on girls side so obviously ppl prefer to have son than girl as son can afford some of expenses himself for his wedding also its less ...but for girl side its more & rare girls can pay for their own wedding...
i feel such thoughts come from indian culture unconciously as when they want their girl marry they give money to boy side...but here unconsiouly in some area ppl r doing this indirectly in the name of gifting...
but in islam girl side r not responsible for anything just a short nikah happiness & rest should be paid as mahr to girl & then if she wish she can buy some jahiz for her if not can take with her...nothing is on girl's parents realy...
& one day walima suggested to give by boy parents to start life with barkat....
nothing on wedding on girl parents!!!!
i feel all is coming from indian culture unconsioly....even if its equal for both side still its not according islam but if burden on girl!!! plz u girls try to delete such nonsence customs even if u want gift it should be only exchnaging gift...
ppl always talks so u should reply them logic prove...
here in my country we say we give girl! even in some area we dont give a single thing with girl but rest area jahiz is also become half half....but we say as we give girl we adopted & comes to ur son home thats main thing rest u should respect her & ur family to make all for her...
but this thought of giving son! its indian culture as in islam u ask for girl's hand so she is coming to ur home ...she didnt ask ur hand & u r not coming to u home so girls side gift their girls in islamic values....
so its on us to stop such old unislamic values...wat do u think???