^ I just particularly always feel guilty in regards for my parents spending money on me now a days. I am so lucky they have paid for my education and I have a doctorate degree living in America with NO LOANS ... this is a huge rehmet on my end.... so now I just feel bad about anything money related. I am the eldest of 5 kids too. My parents have so many other responsibilities still in front of them. Thats why excessive things like extravagant gifts to inlaws and extended in-laws ..... mujhey chubtein hain.....
Also don't forget.. the eldest one usually is the one the younger ones follow. So if your parents give you something excessive they'll always think they'll have to do the same for your younger siblings. That's just how parents work. They want everything even for all their kids. If you tell them now that you don't want all this fuzol gifts and all, I am sure they'll appreciate it and won't be obligated to do all that for your younger siblings. When I got married, my parents compared everything with what the did for my sister. They wanted everything to be even for us. Kisi ko ziada nahi kisi ko kam nahi.