What's up with guys/men...

[Paheli00]

Re: What’s up with guys/men…

@Nisha25

so to the women that think these girls are idiots, if you saw these girls(mostly high school/ college level) being wooed by a guy that you know is like how soni27 described, would you let her go through getting duped. i know women that actually let it happen o “they’re stupid, they’re this or that so let them get hurt…” type of thinking.

Have you ever tried telling a female that the man she’s in love with is a jerk who will break her heart? I have. Many times. And guess what? Not one single female I’ve said this to believed me. B/C according to them…the guy they’re with is “different” and “not one of those guys”. The only way they faced the truth is when reality slapped them in the face. I don’t know about you or anyone else but this is my personal experience.

@Nisha25

soni27 didn’t mention age of the men so who knows there might be guys that are in their 30s that still see women in this way. it’s not really age as much as how they are taught to see women or how they were molded into seeing them(because of bad experiences),I know men in their 50s that see nothing wrong with this kind of behavior…is age really the reason they act like this?not saying all men are like this

I know Soni didn’t mention any specific age groups. But this happens A LOT with people who’re 25 and under. On the flip side, if I met a desi man who was great but 35 and older but single…it would also make me wonder why he’s single. Again…I’m not saying every single men in that category is a player…but when a girl meets a guy in that category, she should use her brain before giving away her heart.

As usual we women need to try to find a “reason” for THEIR behavior instead of looking into ourselves and see what WE can do to prevent this. I honestly don’t think this is as complicated as we make it seem. If a girl is ok with dating…then that’s her decision. However, if a girl is meeting a guy with the sole purpose of marriage…then instead of waiting for MONTHS…she needs insist on getting the parents involved immediately. And she should also not have their entire lives planned out UNTIL he (and both families) actually officially says “yes” to the rishta. Oh…and for a girl who’s this strict about her values (ie. no casual dating)…then she should also control her own hormones until the nikah papers are signed.