Re: What’s up with guys/men…
^ I actually agree with this. I know girls who’re been hurt in situations like this and I also have guy friends who would be considered “players”. The girls are just as much at fault as the guys in my opinion.
One thing girls need to understand and get it through their heads is that for a MAJORITY of men…sex does not equal love! Just b/c they’re attracted enough to a girl to have sex with her…that doesn’t mean they like her personality/values etc. to marry her. Men are more than capable of separating their emotions from sex. If a girl wants to have sex then that’s another story. But if a girl sleeps with a guy with the expectation that he will marry her…that’s when she gets hurt.
Girls also need to realize that many times…when they’re dealing with young guys (let’s say 25 and under)…most of these guys are not thinking marriage. And for the love of God girls need to stop meeting guys online, and get emotionally attached after a few weeks or a month or two…even though the parents have not met and nothing has been finalized. If a girl is not willing to date, and wants to meet a guy ONLY for the purpose of marriage…then she should also immediately push for both sides of parents to get involved…instead of spending MONTHS getting to know the guy and having the guy dissappear. Guys who’re looking for a wife (and not a GF) will have no problem moving towards marriage, and getting family involved if they want to marry you…instead of giving you BS excuses that you accept without questions.
Most guys like this don’t “think” or “expect” anything when they vanish. They move on with their lives. And whether we like it or not…yes, many of these guys go on and live a peaceful/happy lives. Women need to put their emotions aside and use their brains more often when it comes to these situations.