What's this rism called...

innerlifestudio · July 15, 2014, 12:34am

Re: What’s this rism called…

here is that one rasm called ungli pakrai

Can you give a little more context about the rasam you are asking about? In addition to the joota chupai and doodh pillai rasams, there’s:

Ungli rasam on Mehndi days: Bride’s sister grabs the groom’s finger on the mehndi day and wraps it in mehndi. The groom wants to get his finger out before the color is dark. She refuses to let go until he gives some specific sum of money. They negotiate. He is eventually released. The money is shared amongst the bride’s sisters and female cousins.

Darwaza Rookna: The bride’s side stops the barat upon arrival to the shadi. They negotiate an entrance fee that is eventually split amongst the bride’s siblings/cousins.

The groom’s side gets in on the action after the ruksati when the bride is allowed to enter the home/bridal suite, but the groom is blocked until he pays up. That total is split between the groom’s siblings/cousins.

These days, for all of these, there are pre-negotiated totals and it should just be for fun, if all parties want to participate. Best to drop it if people are getting sensitive/upset.