my nannd sometimes just loves to pass comments on me and one of it once was ...
tum apni umar say bari lagti ho ...
eeem ... i am only 22 but ok .. neva mind ...
i so hate that ... in that moment i always feel like saying .. g lekin kamm say kaam 30 ki to ney lagti na ... ( as she is 30 )
Most people have access to a mirror on a daily basis and already know what they look like. People know if they look big, petite, tall, short, thin, chunky, fair, dark, tired, etc. Why others feel the need to point your physical attributes out for you as if you're clueless......I've no idea.
The next time that your nand says, "tum apni umar say bari lagti ho"........
Fire back with:
"Tumhari personality aisi hai k tum apni umar se bahut bahut bahut choti lagti ho." (you're calling her immature)
And when she snaps at you saying, "Kya matlab hai tumhara?"
Cover yourself and "innocently" respond by saying:
"I mean aap ki personality bahut bahut bahut youthful hai." ;)
I was pretty over weight when i was studying i lost 30 kgs after alot of hard work and my relatives when saw me said " hai hai kitni kamzor ho gai hai "
I’ve been slender (AH) since I was 14. But prior to that I was a pretty chubby kid. One of my cousins told me “Come back looking thin like (another mutual cousin of ours.” TACTLESS!
And when I lost the weight…(and many thought I looked good)…the minute she saw me…she says to my mom, “Why’d you make her thin?”
Ridiculous
A on-the-heavier-side cousin of mine did not like me much when I was a chubby kid. When I lost the weight…she bluntly says, “I thought you were much cuter when you were fatter.” Pathetic. You never liked me much back then either. And she made the comment after not seeing me for five years. And shortly afterward…she says, “Yup you’re hair has gotten thinner”…and walks off. I could understand if she ASKED me why my hair had gotten thinner out of concern and if she had suggestions/advice for me. BUT to walk off after making a comment is tactless.
I was a teen then…still developing my self-esteem. Took me years to understand that her comments were a reflection of her own insecurities.
Ooo after I got married n i posted my wedding pic somewhere, "ure bulky/fat but its okay, if ur husband doesnt mind." (some fobbidy fobbby fob on GS said this).
Ooo after I got married n i posted my wedding pic somewhere, "ure bulky/fat but its okay, if ur husband doesnt mind." (some fobbidy fobbby fob on GS said this).
Ooo after I got married n i posted my wedding pic somewhere, "ure bulky/fat but its okay, if ur husband doesnt mind." (some fobbidy fobbby fob on GS said this).
thats so rude of them...i havent seen your pics but i would love to see because i love seeing brides...cant wait to become a bride
well when i was around 16..i was a bit fat..not that fat but still a bit chubby and these aunties use to tell me, lose weight or else you wont find a handsome husband....by 18, i was very slim and trim (didnt did any dieting or anything to lose weight) and i was engaged at that time, then they starting saying, oh you are so thin, put some weight or else your husband will say, i married a hadiyo ka dacha...
everyone knows that i just had a baby now my looks hasn't changed at all. many ppl tell me that i dont even look mom of a baby . now if i would have gained 20 pounds and was looking more fat then i am sure ppl must be commenting on me " hai hai kitna wazan barha liya hai tumny " fact of the matter is ppl who want to criticise will criticise you anyways .......so dont bother !!
Ooo after I got married n i posted my wedding pic somewhere, "ure bulky/fat but its okay, if ur husband doesnt mind." (some fobbidy fobbby fob on GS said this).
everyone knows that i just had a baby now my looks hasn't changed at all. many ppl tell me that i dont even look mom of a baby . now if i would have gained 20 pounds and was looking more fat then i am sure ppl must be commenting on me " hai hai kitna wazan barha liya hai tumny " fact of the matter is ppl who want to criticise will criticise you anyways .......so dont bother !!
hey wats up with this negativity? log achchay bhalay positive comments ko bhi worst comments ki list main add ker rehay hain.
I met my in-laws a couple of months before the wedding since they live in pakistan and couldn't come for the engagement. So obviously when i met them i was trying to make a good impression and talking to everyone...trying to be "friendly" so they wouldn't think im some kind of a snob from overseas.
So my SIL goes to me" bhabi i thought mein bohat zada bolti thi lekin app to mujh se bhi zada bolti hain" so much for trying to break the ice!]
going though this thread makes me realise how cruel desi's can be. Seriously! I hope we never ever turn into those women who judge people on being fat/skinny/kala/gora. May Allah humble us and help us to look at our own flaws and faults before we hurt others...Ameen
