to a long and happy married life?
Do couples ever get bored, tired, sick of each other? What’s it like living with the same person for soooo many years?
Do you just get sooo used to one another that you stop appreciating and acknowledging them?
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married life is neither paradise nor hell...somewhere in between...learn to live with cool breeze from the heavens and also the HOT air from the hell...enjoy and suffer! :)
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Im sure that happens...Im sure ppl get tired of one another sometimes.
Thats why you make sure you have a life of your own too. You make sure you have friends, family and things to do separately...let him miss you.
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Share key goals and some dreams together----it gives your relationship a deeper sense of purpose.
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LIVE and LET LIVE !! key to a happy marriage ;)
Can I call you by your last name?
so Mrs. Malai I think companionship brings peace.
Appreciation goes low at times. But that's what we have "I m sick" "I am going to my mums"
for.
And couple do things together rather then focusing on each other 24/7, things like makin-babies, wasting TV going places.
Now go appreciate Mr. Malai. (ha ha) I hope his last name is not Kofta.
Can I call you by your last name?
so Mrs. Malai I think companionship brings peace.
Appreciation goes low at times. But that's what we have "I m sick" "I am going to my mums" for.
And couple do things together rather then focusing on each other 24/7, things like makin-babies, wasting TV going places.
Now go appreciate Mr. Malai. (ha ha) I hope his last name is not Kofta.
hahah I'm still Miss :) but malai kofta sure are delicious!
So you all are trying to say the key to happiness is not to focus on each other all the time and to give each other space by spending time away from one another?
True :k:
LIVE & LET LIVE 
hahah I'm still Miss :) but malai kofta sure are delicious!
So you all are trying to say the key to happiness is not to focus on each other all the time and to give each other space by spending time away from one another?
hmmm space...
No!!! they fight and leave other alone often. so concept of space don't really apply there.
They live in different domain--different then 24/7 huging/kissing high-school thinge.
Happiness is in million things. Strong bond is very important though.
married life is neither paradise nor hell...somewhere in between...learn to live with cool breeze from the heavens and also the HOT air from the hell...enjoy and suffer! :)
Thats the secret - pitch your expectations at the right level for a successful life.
If the aims & expectations become too high (24/7 romancing & constant demnds to say 'I love you') the problems ensue...
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Well I've only been married for 3 years and 8 months but in the words of someone famous (she apparently said this about what made a man happy)
maid in the living room, cook in the kitchen, w&%&e in the bedroom.
Sorry for the rude words folks, but when you think about it there maybe some truth in what she said.
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there is no secret - the cat is out of the bag and has been for a while
maid in the living room, cook in the kitchen, w&%&e in the bedroom.
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Not needed for all of us.
I cook at least 4 times a week.
We watch Pak dramas together in the living room
initially my dad was the type who wouldn't cook, wouldn't get up to get his water etc etc...he was quite pampered by his mom in Pakistan and still is every time he goes to visit. But as my parents grew older, my dad started to clean, help around the house, make chai for my mom, and even cooks...and it's sooo cute...he makes the most yummiest mattar gosht everrr! :) currently he's making chicken korma :) (oh and he uses his own masalay)
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Chef Zakir ka dasterkhown ...... must have for wives ....and mandatory for loooooooooooooooong lasting relationship :)
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You don't have to challenge eachother on everything, you come to the understanding that it is not always necessary to have things your way all the time.
Keep separate activities / time away from eachother AND spend time with eachother also.
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Learn to follow your man blindly. That is the secret. :D
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The key is in compromising, understanding and tolerance