Assumed scenario:
I’ve had the hots for a guy for just over 4 years now and never even told my best friend fearing she’d think I’m crazy for having liked the same guy for so long. Her and this guy have been getting closer recently and they’re now dating. I love my best friend but I can’t help feeling so jealous that she got him and I didn’t. What should I do?
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
Nothing.
You didnt make your feelings known to your best friend otherwise Im sure she would have hesitated before getting involved with him. Now, its too late. If you mull over this too much, you will start to resent your buddy and may end up losing her.
We never let go of or jeopardize friendships over men.
If you do something to try to break them up, it will hurt your best friend and she is not at fault here.
The best thing to do is be a good friend, try to stop viewing him in that light and move on.
................The best thing to do is be a good friend, try to stop viewing him in that light and move on.
That is the best option...but it is easier said than done! :(
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
Yep. You've lost your chance. Unless they break up because she gave him herpes then you can take a shot.
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
You could try to become closer to the guy and risk losing your friend, or to remain quiet and see how their relationship actually develops. It is possible that it might not work out and you may change your views about the guy.
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
why u are gettin jealous with ur friend even that guy is also not interested in you....how could you stick around with the pplz who don't prefer you to be with....???
Dont take it seriously.... If I was you I would nver be interested in that guy who is not interested in me but in my friend........ there are lot more kooool guys around...world never ends at him.
And its not your friend fault it depends on that guys who chose her.So stay nice with your friend.
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
How old are you?
I thought I was slowwwwwww
but you take the cake!
I mean 4 years is such a long time to like someone and NOT tell...
What is WRONG wid ya?
It's no fun when you love someone and not tell
Now you shouldn't act on it nor keep this feelings of jealousy... cause now you have lost your chance and you should do nothing about it.
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
guys are never worth risking your friends over!!
to be honest without offending you what exactly you going to do anyway? its not as if you are going to break them up then you and him live happily ever after
maybe you should try and move on take one day at a time have an innocent laugh with other lads and forget about him
xxxxx
^they not? :P howz anyone supposed to get married then?
Re: What’s the best way to handle jealousy?
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
i know how you feel. sometimes it can be next to impossible to tell the guy you fancy the truth!
but now you need to accept that he was never yours. he was meant for your best friend. dont be bitter for her as this will just make your angry and upset. be confident about yourself and that you too will find someone amazing. be happy for her and accept what has happened.
Re: What's the best way to handle jealousy?
flyinkiwi
i mean guys that belong to your friend as in this situation are not worth it