What's the best way to get a man...........

[GlobalGal]

Re: What’s the best way to get a man…

@imtiz

Seems like you are stuck with a stubborn man and being a stubborn man my advise is to forget about the whole thing . Do not complicate matters. STOP IT… Seriously…

so are you saying men don’t change and that i’m wasting my time? do the stubborn men have no pity

@el_topo

Globalgal, handcuff him to the radiator until he gives in. Or, become adept at diplomacy.

i’m really bad at being diplomatic. but i think i’ve tried all different ways of approaching it and talking to him. i’ve even tried active listening because a counselor friend of mine suggested. it dint work

@Jetaime

Sorry to hear that, globalgal. Now that you’ve shared more about the subject, I can see why it must be distressing to you that they don’t get along. Your hubby was certainly acting stubborn and should NOT have gotten insulted but don’t forget that it is a rather sensitive matter for him and his relatives. IMO, perhaps you should not have shared it with your friend and their family about it but that’s something done and past so not much you can do about that. You’re just going to have to give your hubby time to get over it, if he doesn’t though, don’t feel guilty or upset. Probably shouldn’t keep trying to get him to make amends by begging him either because it’s something he needs to do himself! He needs to work on not taking offense about it… You can try to help him work on it but cooking his fave meals, crying, doing all his fantasies in the bedroom is not likely gonna help too much in this matter, in fact it might actually keep making him act this way longer (for the special attention you’re giving him). Be someone he can see eye to eye with and can stand shoulder to shoulder with, in other words someone he respects and sees on the same level as him so what you say will start to matter to him so he’ll respect your need to spend time with your friend n their family. First I think you should apologize to him that you regret sharing it with your friend and his/her family (if you haven’t already done so). Best of luck to you.

i didn’t share it with anybody, a family friend had seen his family members, the ones with this particular genetic issue and had just informed us about it. in arranged marriage type of scenario, a woman will always think about her future children and if they will end up getting this, I need to know so it was important for me that he see a doctor just so i’ll know what the chances are that my future child will have it.

i have already apologized but i wish he could see why it was important to me. i’m surprised he wasn’t worried that his future children would have it and the consequences of it