he doesn't say that bluntly; however, he has this 'i don't care if you study more or not' attitude.. and it's not like we're asking him to pay all the tuition fees.. i'm working, my younger sister is working too, my mom has been working for like two decades.. all we're asking is just to pitch in so it can be of some help to us.. like I said earlier, it's not the lack of finance that disturbs me.. I just wish that he could be more encouraging on this.
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well in that situation i'll say proceed with your education...as far as you can (whether he is helping or not)....i know constantly hearing dicouraging stuff is very very bad and difficult but at the moment the best for you is to just ignore all they are saying and just concentrate on your studies. inshallah very soon he will appreciate you.
Also may be if you can tell us where you live, what you wanna study...so maybe one of us can tell you a better plus cheaper option for that?
and please tell me, why in our culture, something called mental satisfaction (in terms of education, marriage etc) is completely ignored? and when someone tries to gain that (without obviously looking down upon others), he/she is being tagged as 'proudy'? Some people are hella lucky that they don't have to go through all of this.. but what about the other unfortunate ones? should they just sit and moan that 'oh meri kismat' instead of struggling to get it?
This is sad when people realte your wish to get better for yourself with aukaat and other such insensible terms. You make your self a person that they have to eat their words back and do not refer to it as getting higher education is like forgetting one's aukaat. It plainly shows sick mentality and how do you let your self bother if someone expresses their sick mentality like this.
What if I am living in a country that doesn't provide quality education? The place that I am currently residing in has post-graduate colleges of all sorts, mostly expensive.. but the thing is I know I am not going to have the slightest of benefits.. let's say it would be a useless addition to my educational background and wouldn't create any difference in my career or something despite spending so much money. so should i just go with the flow and give up this idea?
what country are you living in?
at the end of the day you may want to do something and balanced with all other needs people may say that you going to a tier 1 university while other needs of the family are sacrificed is not as important as you going to a tier 2 university and the sacrifices of the family are managed better.
If its moral support, then be strong and do what you need to do whether or not people give you that moral support.
If its financial support than you have a little bit of a challenge, but I have seen plenty of people put themselves through excellent post graduate programs by winning scholarships, research and graduate assistantships etc. So take the initiative, find the best uni that would pay your way or most of your way and go for it.
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Christopher Gardner (unemployed-poor father):** You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it. Period.
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I've been through hell and back for similar reasons, my parents are incredibly supportive but I had my reasons, anyway, seriously, go for it. You'd rather try and fail than look back in 20 years and regret your decision, worst comes to worst you fail, so what? I talked to my teacher about this and she gave me the best advice. She told me to go home and cry, and let it pass over and then brush myself off and get up and do something about it, it's the hardships in life that shape you, the decision you make now will affect who you become, so ask yourself what it is YOU want and go for it. Good luck, I truly wish you the best :)