Things you wish your parents had done differently / taught you while they raised you. The purpose of this thread is not to be thankless for our parents’ services but rather something we can all benefit from when raising our own children.
I wish they both
had not spent so much time chasing their careers
engaged more in physical activities / exercise
watched what they ate and watched what kids ate (unhealthy)
watched what time they eat what they ate (no breakfast, dinners at 11 pm)
spent more quality time with kids
prayed salah five times a day so kids would learn from example rather than being told repeatedly
lead by example - not do as i say and not as i do
applied same standards to boys AND girls without picking favourites
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I wish somehow my parents wouldve made me more street smart and chalak. And i wish my mom was more friendlier and not as strict as she was so i could share somethings with her without being afraid of her.
Other than that my parents were and still are wonderful.
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I wish my dad lives for himself not other family members!
I wish dad enjoys life not live to work!
I wish my mum stood for herself not fored me to fight her fight
I wish my parents made me chalak and i could face the world more openly.
I wish they had let me work (not just study and study and fullfil their dream of getting higher education); and show my family what i am capable of!
Didn't always groan about how they've grown so old and are in pain all the time especially to the younger children. Children sympathize with them initially but when they hear the same record repeated to them for thirty years they go numb to it. And then when the parents are really really old and in pain there is no feeling or emotion. This is something i will try to never ever do to my children even if i'm on my death bed. I see young twenty-thirty something parents do this and ive been asking them to please not make a habit out of this.
Didn't bicker to younger children about their elder sibs and other people in general. This does nothing but create hatred and prejudice.
Instilled in kids a habit of brushing teeth everyday before going to bed and soon after waking up. Re-inforce the habit by setting examples out of themselves, instead of just yelling orders.
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That's one nice thread.
. I wish my parents would not have been so much protective of me. I wish my father would have given me basic advices and encouraged me to explore the world on my own when the time was right.
I feel like I missed 5 to 6 years of my life staying home when I rather should have been enjoying out.
My parents are really ideal people in almost all aspects. I don't even fault them for above. They did it because they thought it was the right thing to do.
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I don't wish for anything .. I din make the things i miss in my life as my weakness, rather those are the biggest strength of mine .. .. I am happy, the way they raised me up .. :) .. Thanks to 'em ..
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Captain Lota, it's as if you grew up in my house, those are EXACTLY the things I would have said but never would have realized. Some of these REALLY hit home. Thank you SO much for sharing these, I think this is a GREAT list for new parents like me to abide by, sincerely, thank you.
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tht such a nice thread bt i feel guilty writin here abt my own parents
i wished my father wud av shown some confidence in me while i ws growing n ws a student.... i wished he wudnt av alwayz underestimated me dat is one of the reasons i sometimes still lack confidence .... i wished he wud av treated me the same way as he used to treat my bro ...kher Allah SWT has now blessed me with lot more thn i cud evr imagine of and nw my fathr is proud ov wateva i av acheived but nw tht time cant com bk .... i wish i cud b my daddy s girl lyk all my friends were n still are ....bt still lov u dad
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i wish that they had not sacrificed so much to support greedy relatives who turned their backs on them when they no longer needed them. Now that they realize it, they are hurt but what can be done.
I wish they were not so non confrontational and stood up more for themselves and us. it happened but later.
I wish that they had not moved back to Pakistan or stayed for so long after moving back, they lived alone there for a number of years and it was not good for them.
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i wish they had finished high school
i wish my father stops fulfilling his step mother and her kids' every request
i wish my father learned a thing or two from my mother on how to stand up for oneself
i wish they led by example in everything...
i wish i grow up with all the positive characteristics of my parents
