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How long hasn't he been talking to you?
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aa gaye thanedaar, abb jawab do
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another thing I can point to, you have been nice, gone out of the way to please your hubby and in laws, you must have chnaged yourself, which is not good for long term.
when you do favours, it become so normal for other people, they dont even apperciate it but always take things as granted. returning is far far away.
so this is may be why he is not happy or gone quite, cause he think you are not same, changed, but on the other hand you have tried everything to please, no you dont care naturally.
so try explaining, not directly, re define your days , do things differently only for him and yourself. change of routine may have effect on communication.
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well funny enough shak kills, and mahru, i was in that situation and all this^ happened to me. believe me, men who do this r so pig ignorant, and only want u to care 4 their family! (BTW: i divorced him!!)
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Ignoring will not do any good. Talk to him at night before you two go to sleep and ask him what's bothering him. Once you find out the problem, then you two can work together to find a solution to the problem. All the best.
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meeni - i think everyone has different circumstances and it is always best to avoid divorce. But then again you know what your going through..
Mahru I would advise you talking to him and telling him everything that you have told us how you paid for hajj, gifts, and etc. and how you have always had positive feelings toward your in-laws... & now your family is coming so why is he acting like that, try to have a discussion and avoid arguing.. Best of Luck oh yeah remember chooti moti bateein hoti rehti hain.. don't mess up your entire life over it..
I know of a person whose husband doesnt like for her to have a lot of contact with her own family, but she can't divorce him for that because he treats her great and etc. but see everyone has different opinions and perspectives on everything, so good luck again!
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sayonee: ok, let me correct myself! HE divorced ME, but i guess i feel better saying it the other way round!! U R right, every1 has there own situation.
But MAHRU it may help if u write it down for him to read, (it used to work for me) this way he can read it in his own time, over and over again and maybe it'll knock some sense into him.
MAHRU: ur problems seem so similar to mine, i hope it goes ok 4 u
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i would talk to him. ask him why he behaves like ths and make him understand - that would he like it if you did that to his parents. i think its digusting immature behaviour. go kick his a$$ girl.
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I think he is very moody and wants things HIS way!
Although he may not admit but there is something on his mind.
All of us are talking about "talking and communication" what if the other person behaves weird on most issues. Where to go from there. Its tough. And trust me I am talking from experience. Somedays he is good some days only God knows what!
I don't have a solution. When one says I love you soo very much and next few hours or days later that person turns into a different being...what do you do. Semms like a circle.
Mehru: may God help you ( and me!)
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lolz.. exactly the kind of advice i got from one of the taiz aunty last week. 
oh n mahru: i hope things work out for u 
seems like ur husband is very moody, n nothing seems to be pleasing him. talk to him, communication is a key to successful relationship. good luck!
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Only the people who have gone through or are going through such situations can better understand what my problems are. It is hard, very hard when you don't even know what you did wrong. But only Allah will help us to deal with such people. I guess Allah chose us to be their wives for a certain reason, Walking on Water. Maybe we have the stamina to deal with such immature, arrogant, and ignorant people.
Take care!
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Mahru
what else is he doing other then not paying proper respect to
your family??? I mean how is he other wise?