Imagine your parents and the grooms parents didn’t get along, but were happy with your union with you fiance. Would you go to a walima without your parents?
Would you allow your parents not to invite his parents to the wedding?
What would you do?
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Marriage for me is union of not only two people i.e the groom and the bride, but two families i.e the groom’s family and the bride’s family. So that basically answers your question, rite! I can’t see myself ever marrying someone whose family is not accepting me or anyone whom my family don’t approve of :nono:.
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I would make every effort to get them to be civil. Both parents should be there, at both events.
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Try to get them along, after all parents do love you both more than anyone and they are happy with your union.. if this doesn't work at all then let it be.. I would suggest not to ruin your relationship.. good luck!
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Tell them they dont have to get along, but have to attend the whole wedding (both side of the parents.) i wouldn't have any party/function without mine or his parent.
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oh this happened wth my cousns for smehow just before the wedding something went wrong wth both the fathers even on mehndi when brides afther came to meet grooms father he didnt meet him n oushed him bck which was recorded in video also n ofcourse every family member noted both groom n bride were upset after mehndi functio all the elders of the family got involved n resolved their issue n everything went fne on barat n valima :)
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how will you enjoy your walima if your parents are not there ? that's so selfish to even think like this i cant imagine my any special day without my parents ?instead of thinking like this why dont you and ur fiancée take a step and talk to them(both parents) that they means alot to you and play an important part in your life so both the parents should get along with each other .....sorry its looks so sad that a daughter can even think like this ? no RELATIONSHIPS can take over your parents place always remember that !!!!
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Barat is an event where girl's parents are inviting the guest and on walima guy's parents are.. if they both aren't inviting each other and not considering the severity of the matter there is absolutely nothing the girl/guy can do about.. I suggest try to either get them along or have a simple wedding/nikah
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umm yeah. this is just a cry for more problems in the future. they should try to be cordial and attend both functions. like someone mentioned above, marriage isnt just a union between 2 individuals but union of families.
imagine what will happen when grandkids come into the picture...will one side attend one birthday one year and another side attend the next birthday?
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Imagine your parents and the grooms parents didn't get along, but were happy with your union with you fiance. Would you go to a walima without your parents?
Would you allow your parents not to invite his parents to the wedding?
What would you do?
No, I would not go to a walima without my parents. And I would not allow my parents to exclude his parents from the wedding. If the issue is my parents, then I'd tell my parents that they need to put aside their own feelings and put their love for me first. They don't have to like my in-laws....but if they care about me at all then they need to treat my in-laws with respect.
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Imagine your parents and the grooms parents didn't get along, but were happy with your union with you fiance. Would you go to a walima without your parents?
Would you allow your parents not to invite his parents to the wedding?
What would you do?
Why all this drame-baazi? Include both parents in all functions. They don't have to pretend to be best friends. Both should be adult enough to tolerate each other for an important function like this.
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A wedding day should be about both of you celebrating your marriage - if both sets of parents agree to you two being together then they should all attend the ruksati and valima - its a day celebrating the two of you - not them.
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y dunt the like them ? .. did something specific happen that they cannot tolerate each others presence ?
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do u mean YOUR valima or just a valima, where u r invited with ur in-laws?
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This is a hypothetical situations :S I am fine guys !!!! but these answers are deffo interesting!
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^well thats a relief! thank goodness it's not a fact :)