What would you do...?!

[redrose1]

Re: What would you do...?!

i agree. if it was love u wouldnt care who u had to live with!

I believe real life is much more difficult!

[Reha]

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@TLK

You know dudette, if I was a girl, I would not marry him. I said it somehwere that after forcing a love marriage on their mothers and getting an approval (especially when there was an initial resistance by his mother like in above case), guys go into a sudden guilt trip right after marriage and not only become submissive to their moms, but expect wife to do that to. This is where girls come back and say, oh before marriage he was so much in love with me and now he does not even care about me.

This is what happens, guilt trap.

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@Being_Human

I am not the one in love SO my answer may not make much sense but i wouldnt go ahead with such a relationship**. Because for me marriage is not getting together of two people only (i.e the husband and the wife) but its about two families getting together and accepting each other in their lives.** So in such a case that wouldnt be possible. For my love, i would definately do my best to figure out why his mother doesnt like me and if possible have a heart to heart with her and clear out any misunderstanding there may be. If it doesnt even work out then, i wl have no option to backout. I wouldnt want any guy to leave his parents or family for me even if he was willing because if he can leave his family for me, i am sure later on he can leave me for somebody else too Just my two cents.

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@redrose1

I believe real life is much more difficult!

Thats the point here redrose…real life is much more difficult than a relationship. Once you’re married and real life hits you…it wont be so pretty because he will feel bad about defying his mother. He might expect you to be submissive as TLK said and try to ‘make it up to her’.

[redrose1]

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^ That's what and how i feel a guy starts thinking and behaving,as TLK mentioned, once he is married to the girl he always wished to get married to..and I believe,that's the most dangerous thing the outcome of which can be anything..,the thought of which actually scares me.

[Gaia]

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You should only marry him under the condition you both live separately. If that is completely not possible then it's better not get married.

Further, I don't think he loves you enough to move out ( some place close to his parents of course), otherwise as soon as he knew of his mothers reaction towards you, there would have been no other choice but to give you your own home. That's respect any wife deserves. If he at this point is unable to understand the possibility of his mother turning on you, he definitely will not understand this issue after marriage.

Btw is his mother really that mean? or were you exaggerating?

[redrose1]

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^ Why would I exaggerate?! /-) Well, most of the females here do understand how mean can some MILs get!

[Iyla]

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Sorry to hear about your situation.

You're not even married yet but these problems have bubbled up!

If you can, choose to live separately otherwise you'll have rocky times ahead with a future-MIL who already doesn't get on with you. But what exactly was it about you that she didn't like and was not approving of?

How long have you and your future-MIL known each other for?

[mama_ki_dua]

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Suppose..there's a guy who wants to marry you but his mother doesn't approve of this and doesn't like you simply but somehow,upon being persistent, the guy makes the mother approve of and accept you and agrees to make him get married to you but you know that she is a very strict,stubborn type of a lady who could become a 'zalim' mother-in-law, and after the marriage you would have to live with her under the same roof.In such a case, would you marry this guy?You can't really live separately from her only with your husband because he is the only one she has so, in such a case, what would you do?Should you marry the guy?Or should you just leave him because his mother can make your life hell.What would you do?

You'll be living under the same roof? I sense drama coming your way lol There are millions of people out there you could easily find someone else.

[misbah_afzal]

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I Think I'll marry wid this guy bcoz i love him aur jis se muhabat ki jati he us ki har aik cheez piyari lagti he
wo to phir us ki maa he.

[Ashy2010]

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I Think I'll marry wid this guy bcoz i love him aur jis se muhabat ki jati he us ki har aik cheez piyari lagti he wo to phir us ki maa he.

I agree... n what is the guarantee that if u marry another guy, his mom wont be difficult... just try to be a gud bahu and every thing will be fine Insha Allah :)

[CE]

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Sorry but u just seem like a spoilt lil brat! The man persuaded his mum to agree to the marriage and now ur making excuses

There must be a reason why she doesnt like u? otherwise why would anyone is their right mind wanna make their daughter in laws life hell?

I think what ur looking for is a husband who will be willing to leave his parents for u, shame on such men!

[fairywings85]

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I believe real life is much more difficult!

i think it is simple...u love him? u want to marry him? ...i realise it is your potential mother in law...but still...i guess it depends on each person?

[Deeba1234]

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[Rukhsarbibi]

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there are numerous stories like this RedRose. Don't do it. I am sure you've seen Everybody Loves Raymond. Real Life is 100 times harder :)

[redrose1]

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^ Right, real life is 100 times harder :)

[Ashy2010]

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^ Right, real life is 100 times harder :)

What have you finally decided? Did you quit?

[Jaanwar]

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^ Right, real life is 100 times harder :)

You dug up a 2 month old thread just to agree with the lady and smile at her?

[redrose1]

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^ Yes, so any issues with that?!

[ShimmerV]

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THTS LIKE DITTTTTOOOO MY STORY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!