if ur young son/daughter (lets say under 5’s as they are not aware of wats right and wrong) is told to take his/her older playmates pants down and perform a sexual act on the other child? Your child refuses and tells u straight away
1- beat them
2- praise them for telling u
3-other, if so what?
i was reading something regarding this topic when the thought crossed my mind. I prsonally wud praise my child for telling and encourage him/her to tell me about anything of the sort, whether a child makes them do it or adult they shud tell us straight away. Care to share ur thoughts and views?
2, but I think it would also require a talk about what happened. That was probably a confusing (and scary) moment for the child and s/he might have a lot of questions, feelings, and thoughts about it that need to be shared with a parent.
praise the child for telling you and explain that what had happened was wrong and that if anything like this happened again to tell you again.
the child would need lot's of hugs and understanding.
praise the child for telling you and explain that what had happened was wrong and that if anything like this happened again to tell you again.
the child would need lot's of hugs and understanding.
how would you make ur child aware of 'bad' people when its time for him/her to go to school? also with the parents a child will usually tell most things but when its teachers or another adult they may not tell due to shyness.......how to tackle the 'dont tell ur mommy or daddy about what happened' line?
I would ask questions first, to see how the child interpreted what happened? "how did that make you feel" type questions. I would try not to vilify the other child, but focus more on addressing my child's concerns and clarifying why this kind of talk and act is hurtful, bad, etc.
I had to explain to my 4.5 year old that kissing is wrong and she should not let anyone kiss her on the lips
Some desi families (Pakistani muslims) were visiting and the kids went upstairs to play in her room. When they left she told me that one of the boys (he’s only 6) kissed her on the lips … I was horrified, told her that it was good that she told me, hugged her… then very gently explained to her that its wrong and she should not let anyone do that to her. She asked why and I explained to her that for one its yucky, it spreads germs from mouth to mouth, secondly we’re muslims and Allah miyaan says we should not kiss on the lips unless we’re married. She again asked why. I didn’t know how else to explain so I just said “have you ever seen mama and papa kiss on the lips”. She said “no mama”, I said see you should also not kiss on the lips… she was satisfied with that answer (thankfully)… I guess I need to explain things better when she grows up a bit … any pointers?
same as above and also priase them for telling me its not good to say oh forget it and hide it away its important that you communicate about it to your child so that they will know right from wrong
