Just because you're a housewife...is no guarantee that you'll never have to work to support your husband and family. Life isn't consistent...circumstances can change....and dealing with them is ...life.
Money can come and go and rizq is from Allah. No guarantee that the next "rich" husband isn't going to lose his fortune and what if he's rich....but has the most disagreeable personality? There's more to a relationship than money (ideally should be).
And as** Stolenights **said, the question (to me as well) sounds unreasonable because it's just way too simplified. In the event that you've established a sincere relationship with your partner....then you can't easily dump them because they're making less now or because you discovered they had a past relationship, etc. The OP's question makes it sound like it would be a split-second decision and I doubt it would be like that. Now, if the relationship is not mutually sincere....then such superficial actions might result.
Now, we all know how important money is to women in marriage/relationship. Ladies, what would you do if you get married to a man who losses his business/job due to some tragedy after a year of marriage (or relationship). He would bring in very little or no money for quite some time. Would you dump him and get another man or would you stay with him? be honest
Guys, what you think most women would do if you bring in little or no paper at all due to tragedy after some time into relationship?
If it was due to tragedy or bad luck I wouldn't dump him, I'd try and help him get back on his feet.. Hopefully we'd have savings anyway.. If he was reckless and spent his way thru all our money or his business failed cos of something like fraud tho I'd prob ditch him (and I wouldn't blame him if he did the same to me if the situation was reversed). I couldn't live with a guy if there was no *trust..
*
Ummm...I dont know many women who would leave their husbands. Most marriages I know are working through thick and thin. Men dont always have a job or always successful at everything they touch. 90% of my friends have stuck by their husband's side through the most miserable of times. I cannot begin to tell you the stories. They didnt leave or give up and after years of pushing...are now enjoying the fruits of their labor. So, this thing of "women would leave if a man loses his job" is nothing more than a concoction of the male ego to make him feel like we are that materialistic and couldnt possibly earn on our own.
In this day and age........a man cannot provide much more security financially than a woman could provide on her own. Women dont need men for money anymore...so the question should actually be:
Aside from a paycheck...what else do you men bring to the table? Why should you be kept around? Aside from your financial worth...do you have any actual worth? Or is that it?
Its like asking a man........."would you divorce your wife after she had a baby and had stretch marks all over her stomach"? Most men say NO. They wouldnt walk away from the mother of their child for such superficial reasons. Well, why would women when they can easily do that on their own?
I Orpheus, take you Rose to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live. :@:
Now, we all know how important money is to women in marriage/relationship. Ladies, what would you do if you get married to a man who losses his business/job due to some tragedy after a year of marriage (or relationship). He would bring in very little or no money for quite some time. Would you dump him and get another man or would you stay with him? be honest
Guys, what you think most women would do if you bring in little or no paper at all due to tragedy after some time into relationship?
I Orpheus, take you Rose to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live. :@:
no way if the guy is hard working and trying his best, it is woman/spouses' responsibility to support him/her guring rough time. This is no reason to give up on someone, unless he is a jac***s and sits at home find any excuse to leave work.
I have experienced this personally, when we got married, my job was wayyyy better than my hubby's his was good too, like a regular software eng in any corporate env, but mine was top top notch, we never had issues, I always knew how good he is with his stuff and it was just the matter of timel. Sure enough within three yeras he surpassed me like anything. I didn't need to work, he paid for mortagae, expenses, cars, trips all by himself and I knew how he ALWAYS appreciated(without saying) how we stuck together during that time when he was trying to excel.
but nadz123, I understand what you mean, I know some ppl who would gave up on their partners just because they were not financially as good as they would like them to be, and I think that is pethatic.
I Orpheus, take you Rose to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live. :@:
lets say tragedy is little different from someone working at lehman bro, indymac, wamu etc who lost his job overnight.
tradegy is he got in some sorta incident, can't work again or if he could work, salary won't be much. I wonder how many women would stick by?
It is just the social pressures and lack of 'wealthier' opportunity (not goodness of heart) that desi women tend to stick through whatever comes, making lives of the hubbys even more miserable :P
A financially stable desi guy wouldn't really want to get married to someone who separated from her husband because she left him in distress.
lets say tragedy is little different from someone working at lehman bro, indymac, wamu etc who lost his job overnight.
tradegy is he got in some sorta incident, can't work again or if he could work, salary won't be much. I wonder how many women would stick by?
Like I said...comparable to men being superficial and looking for only one thing in a woman: looks. Once her looks fade...he is out the door and cheating on her. As soon as she gets pregnant, he is flirting with other women.
Ive heard sometimes what we try to dig out in other people is actually a reflection of who we are. Maybe you are superficial and therefore think others would be as well.
You would divorce your wife if she wasnt thin and pretty anymore?
In this day and age........a man cannot provide much more security financially than a woman could provide on her own. Women dont need men for money anymore...
So why 'in this day and age', the basic qualifications for a man to get married are degree, salary and overall financial status?
If these qualifications are not for money, then what are they for?
