if you and another friend decide to pitch in together for a gift for a friend which is very close to both of you. she tells you to buy the gift and she will give the money later on. you give the bday present and after that you ask for the money and she flatly refuses. this is after she has told the bday girl that the gift is from both of us and also on the card both names are written.
for you money was never an issue but the other girl insisted on splitting the cost of the gift?
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ohh thats harsh i would personally let it go, because what can you do? You can't fight her or even make her give you the money. Lesson learned for next time.
btw was she being a b**** about it or was it some other type of body gestures because maybe she at that moment can not afford it.
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That has happened to me enough times in my life now that I make a firm decision before agreeing to a joint gift. I either get the money ahead of time and only include the name of the other person on the card if they pay ahead of time, or I choose to pay the whole thing and give credit to the other person regardless of whether they pay. If I decide ahead of time, I don't get as bothered if someone does not follow through by paying their share.
Some people are notorious for this sort of thing. I actually had one friend in the past that paid me her half of the cost of the gift in pennies. It was a $40 gift... lol!
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in pennies??
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I don't know...........maybe let it go, but it also depends on the cost too. If you spent a lot, you should try to get your money back...if not, let it go. I don't think you should tell the b'day girl anything, that would ruin her mood.
Well, what can you do in this situation, nothing. Spare yourself some dignity, don't ask for the money again - smile and nod and while you do that, put your head into use and don't be fooled twice.
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Awww - that bites! She is a sucky friend. Cut your losses, and going forward, just minimize your interaction with her.
Unless of course, there are mitigating circumstances regarding why she can't pay right now (lost her job, or other valid reason for why she can't pay).
Hi Aisha,
Yikes that doesn't sound like the mark of a good friend. I hope the gift wasn't too expensive. Do you think that there might be financial problems in your friend's life which is why she couldn't pay for the gift?
Is this the first time that she's done this? Or is such manipulative dishonesty a frequent problem with her? If it's a frequent problem, then maintain a distance from her.
As others have suggested, it would be better if you try to move on from this. If you press your friend any further to pay her half...........then this might do more damage than good. Because your friend showed some serious CUNNING by lying and saying that the gift was from "both" **of you when she had no sincere intention to pay for the gift. And I have heard of people STALLING or MAKING EXCUSES about paying their half. **BUT **I have **NEVER **heard anyone outright **REFUSE to pay for their half. That is really twisted and immature. And I've dealt with people like this, Aisha. So, I'm telling you from experience........be careful around her in the future. This "cunning" behavior usually is not only confined to material things like gifts...........it is often reflected in other situations as well.
If you feel that you ABSOLUTELY MUST talk to her about her behavior.........then do it without pressing her to pay for her half.........and instead focus on the real issue which is honesty. You can nicely tell your friend that "Hi, I wanted to briefly talk about the gift. I think we picked out a great gift and hope that our friend likes it. I don't want you to get the wrong idea. I'm not going to demand that you pay for it because it's over and done with. I was just baffled by your behavior. I couldn't understand why you would insist on paying for the gift and then refuse later on. If you were encountering difficulties paying for the gift, then I want you to know that as a friend you can be honest with me and trust me. Honesty and trust are important in a friendship. Once again, you don't have to pay me back if this is not a good time for you. I just want you to know that you can be open with me."
^ I don't know if this will help because you know this friend better than I do. In my opinion if the gift wasn't too expensive then....its better to move on without complaining and be careful next time. Also, in future, try to get the money first before purchasing.
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abhay kaisi friend hain 
kher give her do char galian, and ignor her
ps. but take it is a moral and dont repeat the same mistake again.
ps2. i usaually dont have any hisab kitab with my friends. cuz if i am buying this time, next time she will buy it and i might pitch in the money.
ps3. i usually dont like to pitch in cuz i spend freakin time on finding the gift.