Its a very weird problem. Suppose you know this person who was liked by this guy.The freaky thing is that the guy got pretty freaky when she turned him down and started doing these weird stalking and mind games etc.
Now if this friend of yours used your name to bail herself out of the situation saying that I have arranged a rishta for her and she is engaged. The dude stops for a while but then starts calling you to tell his side saying that he considers you as his older sibling etc. You dont pick the phone up but sooner or later or one day you might, maybe accidently.The id usually doesnt always work.
To complicated the situation, the dude just went through major surgery on his head, Now Im feeling so guilty. He has again emailed me. I feel bad for him because of his situation, but at the same time he has never talked to me about this. There is a level of respect and I dont want him to open up about this as I think too that they are not a good match in the long run.
What would you do. In the previous email he is begging and saying that please pick up your phone I have a problem to discuss and I had an operation etc. I am the kind of person who cannot say no on a person’s face:(. In this particular situation I simply cannot choose between taking his side or the other person’s. One part of me was thinking that maybe he may keep her happy , but then there is this other part that makes me see him as a spoilt brat who used all possible means to get the “Thing” he wants right now.
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If i were in ur situation, i might have cleared up the things to the guy. there shouldnt be any fear bringing out the truth. What you think of their match is not the concern. When the gurl herself backed out it tells that things were not going to click between the guys. Now donot escape from it. DO give it a talk next time he wants it, and make the things clear to him. This being quiet must be rather frustrating for him. I feel he needs your sympathies. Tell him in balanced and carefully selected words that maybe the guys were not meant for each other. And do clear your position in all of this mess aswell. Otherwise it will be a depression for urself also.
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Boss at this point i would say u have to choose sides and then make the person understand that the girl doesnt want n e thing to do with him and if he really likes her and cares about her and if he really respects u then quit being a kid and move on :k: thats wat i was told and it helped me as i was in a similar situation as ur friend. :k:
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stalking is not only immature but is also going to lower the respect of the person in the heart of whoever is her/his target.
May Allah swt guide people in relationships.
best,
Dushwari
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i totally agree wid u :k:
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he is harassing you, there is no excuse for it. stand your ground and tell him to leave you alone. otherwise, tell your and his parents and get help. don't let it disturb your life.