hmmm…if your sister is getting married n you are in another country …can’t go …can’t attend the ceremony …
what would you do…???
n the worse is she is leaving the country after that …n God knows when you’ll be able to see her !
how will you make it acceptable for yourself …???
how will you react …???
Afia: Tough. :Hugz:
It happens to many people living abroad....Ahhh bhaar kar sabar karleteen hain!
But why can't you go?
She's your sister should she understand why you can't come?
roshnie.....:-)
hugs back
where have u been ....(i miss u whenever i drive my elephant )
well, its a funny situation ....dulha bhai was supposed to come for wedding in may ......but his company messed up all plans n he kept delaying it till now ....but we went to pak to attend it n then he told he isn't coming ....we lived n waited for 3 months ..... came back without attending ....now kids r school going n ...i can't go ....n she will leave pak in november .....
i was soo busy controling my emotions that i couldn't hear the exact date ....but well its 25 or 26 sept. i think
:-(
belle...she knows n understands ....but i'm missing her ....
Ohh very sad to hear Afia 
Seriously, I wouldnt know what I would do :)
My sis is getting married in some months INshaAllah, and I cant imagine how I would feel If I couldnt attend it.
Are u sure u cant find a way to attend Afia?
i don’t have a sister..but my girl cousins were like my sisters..there were times i couldn’t be there for them physically..specially at their weddings..but i did kept in touch with them via email/letter and phone.
You know what you can do…if you have old pics of your sister and yourself..make a photo memory album..write your personal comments with the photos..it makes it more personal…and when she goes to another country..she will definately treasure it the most..and from time to time when you plan to go back to pakistan..if she can’t go to pakistan at that time you can make a stopover at her place. I am sure you will appreciate that.
I know its a tough time..but it happens unfortunately.
Here’s a —> for you.
thanx all...!:-)
n Qrius thank you very much for the suggestion n flower .....:-)
i have already missed many weddings ....including my dearest cousins .....thoughi felt sad then too...but now its my own sister ....just 3 years younger than me ....
its not simply tough ....it is something i don't have a word to describe ....but well....what can i do ....???
now i just want to shut up ....i shouldn't be crying on a happy happy occasion ....i can't do anything but wish her the best !!
sigh
so she is getting married today …!sigh
awww it happened to us, my sister got married here and other sis in us couldnt make it, let alone most of our khandaan. maybe you can have a reception for her later on.
Cheer up Afia :)
Things like that are bound to happen to us pardesi ppl. One foot in Pakistan and One foot on the other side of the globe. I'm really sorry to hear that. I can certainly relate to you. Look on the brighter side though. The new country she is going to maybe will give you a chance to visit too :)
It is tough... in 24 hours... I am going to miss the wedding of one of the most important person in my life. I am in the U.S. and she is in Lahor. Wedding is on Monday. Right now, I am listening to shaadi songs on sma****s.com. Some of songs are just making me cry. I thought I would not be affected but I am feeling ....... I can't even write this without having tears in my eyes.
Life's tough sometimes. But the consolation is that she will be back here in a few weeks. But the thought keh she now finally belongs to someone else. I hope she does alright...... for her first trip ever to Pakistan.
To you (you know who you are): I have been very sad in not being able to tell you. I know your circumstances and understand. Now you know, too.
^ Jannu, your daughter getting married?
Can you get a videotape of the wedding done and sent to you? And maybe you could make a personalized tape for her alone, telling her how happy and sad you are. That way, even with distance, you can still see and be a part of each other as much as you can.
ah, you see, you are CLOSE to your sister. I'd send the kid a gift pack in the mail and giver her a cyber-pat-on-the-back and send her along to the susral with a "have fun kiddo, and dont call me with your saas problems"
But then, that's pcg-styling it. You might not want to go down that way.
Thanx everyone!:-)
its alright now , i think!
i've been constantly on the phone all 3 days ....from the moment she was having her hands decorated with mehndi ....to the moment she left the hall after walima ......!
Thanx to Almighty i was there at every important moment while being physically thousands of miles away!
God bless her!
:-)
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God bless her!
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Ameen. May she have a happy life :)
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hmmm....if your sister is getting married n you are in another country ....can't go ...can't attend the ceremony .......
what would you do...???
n the worse is she is leaving the country after that ...n God knows when you'll be able to see her !
how will you make it acceptable for yourself ...???
how will you react ...???
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either i have to stop my plans and attend her wedding or she has to halt her wedding until i can get there.....there is NO WAY we cannot see each other.....i mean its such an emotional event...how can u miss it?...
^
may things turn up the way u wish ....but at the moment all i can say is , 'easier said than done!'
:-)
Code red ....thanks!
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Ameen. May she have a happy life :)
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Ameen.
it's a very strange juncture. The fork on the road is a very hard divide.... for both. The amount of happiness and sadness are so differently felt by those closely involved.... no one understands unless they've been in it.
May Allah grant your sister a happy, prosperous and a long, life together. Ameen.
Like everyone, she is leaving a gap that will be felt by all those who love her while she will grow in to a new family with time. Life goes on. We create new families and get busy with them over time... leaving some of the sadness' behind, leaving some memories behind. We do look back through the pictures years and years later... and reflect on the times around the pictures...... sometimes we laugh, sometimes our eyes tear up. Time doesn't roll back. We get busy again.
But the greatest loss is felt by those who are kept away as a hostage by distance and circumstances. They feel the greatest loss.... I don't know if there's a way to lessen that feeling. This type of loss always leaves something extra to pain the heart. A sister losses a best friend, a mother and father loose the most precious person their lives. A brother looses the best love in his live. We just become numb in the beginning and then life takes over but that feeling never quiet goes away... Every generation goes through the same go-round.