marry the person you love, who lives in pakistan where the environment is really bad now, and because his parents refuse (for their own valid reasons) to move , he also then is stuck in the middle, what can he do he cant leave his parents alone in pak and come live with his wife in the uk…his parents dnt really want to move anywhere. does he leave his parents and family, or have the wife live there with him in the tension of the blasts…
or dont marry him.
he doesnt want his wife to live in tension either, neither does he want to work there where his life will be in danger and his wife and family will be worried sick…
ideally he wants to call them to the uk, where his wife is a national. but they at the moment are not budging.,
so can someone please give ideas on how to perseuade them, or should the girl take her chances marry him and live there with them.
And him being your cousin makes it more complicated right.
Well say everyone on here said dont marry him, would you do that? If not then only 2 options are left.
Him move here or you move there.
Both will be making sacrifices, but for me moving country and having trouble adjusting is less of a sacrifice than going there where there is so much trouble and your life is in danger.
Have you talked thing trough with him? what is his take on things?
Does he have any brothers who can stay with the parents and him move to the uk?
i agree. marry him if you truly love eachother. have faith in Allah that everything will be fine inshAllah. …move there, get settled down a little…maybe in time they would feel convinced that they SHOULD move to UK…make them realize that its not for YOUR selfish reasons that you want them to move. tell them that you really care for their whole family and dont want them to get hurt…explain to them that their son (your hubby, hopefully) has a multitude of more opportunities regarding studies and career and staying in PK will only hold him back…
As ASD said, she should marry him with option A i.e. live with him in PK...
Who can give guarantee to the couple that they will remain alive longer in UK than in PK... no one !!!
If u ask me (Well, no one's asking so hell).... I would devise a cleverly plotted plan, actually i would devise my own, cleverly and e.t.c, e.t.c.... to make the parents think, and understand that if they have the slightest chance of settling anywhere but Pak, then they would definitely go for it.
And the plan is a bit lengthy so I cant outline all the sets and plots and e.t.c u know...but for a start... the GUY should get beaten up, screwed and left in shambles. U don't have to pay anyone, the guy can ask any of his hundred friends a favor. Or, say something nice to his friend's sista.... easy!!! So when the parents would see him in tatters, and he moaning and groaning, i guess they would definitely have to change their mind.
OK on the contrary, sometimes the egomaniac in me spurs my control so i didn't write the above paras. I have nothing to do with this... I am out-a-'ere.
Yeah, i reckon who ever puked that so called advice needs to see a psychiatrist immediately!!! Or…or i guess he haven’t watched any INDiAN movie in ages… makes sense.
Postpone the wedding. He's not running anywhere, if he loves you, he'll wait and convince his parents. His parents will eventually give in.
Dont marry now, wait till every demand is settled.
If he looks for someone else then you'll know, how much he really loved you.
…this might work in an indian movie…but she needs real answers 