Re: What would you do in this Situation
I was playing Devil's Advocate. Thats how its done in our culture.
Re: What would you do in this Situation
Recently i had a conversation with a close friend regarding Sexual Abuse in the Asian Community focusing on pakistani community.
She told me about a person she knows that suffered from this type of abuse from Cousins or Uncles etc. but this girl never spoke about this to anyone, she was afraid to tell anyone in her family because of this so-called "izat" factor. These events in her life have done alot of mental damage which is why she doesnt want to get married to anyone in her family.
How would you tell somone about this? (keeping in mind that the abuser is a family member)
And how would you tell your future Partner about these incidents?
where the amount of damage done probably depends on the level of abuse, the length of abuse and the coping skills of the victim, i do think it is good to talk about it with a closed, loved person who you trust. in some situations the girl (or boy) abused might blame themselves for what happened which can lead to self-destructive behavior. in other situations they might start to categorize such abuse as being normal which can wreck relationships. its good to talk about it with others who can lend a shoulder and remind you that it was not your fault.
sexual abuse is a sensitive matter and if many years have passed since the abuse then it becomes even more complicated. it becomes a case of he said vs she said. also as angel eyes said if the abuser has repented, it becomes a question of whether it is fair to expose him. then again u never know if they are still abusing someone currently that is too scared to come forward. some experts say for example that pedophiles and rapists are incurable.
keeping the issue of exposing your abuser aside, i do think that it is generally a good idea to talk about it with someone you can trust.
Re: What would you do in this Situation
Thanks Everyone for your replies,
It's Quit sad that this happens in our society, and noone wants to do anything about it, when it comes down to it i;ve warned my sisters about people inapropriatly touching them and to tell me if anuything hapens, i think everyone should make their children aware and obviously take precautions to ensure their child is in safety i am definatly gona be one of these paranoid mothers regarding this subject.
But the bottom line is Asians Wont do anything about tit because its their own people doing it, its this so called Izat factor that lets us down really badly