What would you do if you found out

Lifestyle Relationships
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This thread is based loosely on another thread here about cheating so I wanted to know

What would you do if you found out that your spouse was cheating on you? What would be your first reaction? Would you want to keep the marriage?

what would you do if you found out one of your parents was cheating on the other? As their child, what would you think? What kind of thoughts would be running through your mind?

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We've had threads on this topic before, but OK...

Umm, I'd always like to sit and chat about it and get to know the facts.
Parents, jeez, I'd lose respect for the cheating party.

Hope that never happens to any of us.

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sorry about the repeat topic but it's always something that comes up in society time and time again.

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1) Head to the nearest bank.

This reminds of a woman I once heard on the radio. She found out that her husband was cheating on her or cheated on her. She didn't confront him but continued being the same person she was. He had no suspicion. Meanwhile, she found herself a job, a place to live etc etc. Filed for divorce. And one fine day, left with her kids without a word. And all this time, her husband had no clue!

2) I would be devastated. And probably always be paranoid about my own relationships.

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i'm hoping there's a strong foundation to the relationship and that i loved him a lot and he still found me desirable, if that was the case and this was just a moment of weakness, i would forgive him.

one of my buddy's husband had an affair while she was in the old country, this was right after they got married but she loved him a lot so she forgave him and he ended up being a much more attentive and loving,caring person to her.

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Cheating is a deal-breaker for me. If I found out, I would yell at him until I have no more energy left. At some point during all the yelling, I would ask why that was done.

I can understand that we all find other people attractive and sometimes have crushes too. But that is where you need to be conscious and stop yourself. If my SO does not have the respect for himself or me to do that, I am not staying.

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I prob wouldn't yell, I think I'd just go all quiet and withdrawn but I wouldn't hesitate to divorce if it was a proper relationship (ie he was taking her out to candle-lit dinners or telling her he loved her).. The girls who take their guys back after cheating nearly always have to deal with it happening again a few months or years down the line.. Not saying a person who cheats always will cos obviously some ppl can change or turn over a new leaf, but not many people are able to (esp if they've 'gotten away with it' eg the wife/husband seems to forgive too quickly) imo..

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Its important to talk and know all the facts, before any conclusions develop.

If a parent cheats, I would lose all respect, but not do anything since its between the parents.

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I sooooooo agree with you on that bolded part there. It's part of human nature to find other people attractive but it's in the way that you deal with it that matters. Can't give in to every instinct y'know?

absolutely. I strongly advise anyone and everyone to not act out of anger. Take some time chill for a bit and then think with a clear head. Often times when we're in a situation of deep distress, we don't have a clear enough head to make the right decision.

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1-ask him to leave....
2-i will leave and take my mom or dad with me

i dont understand y most people here are saying they would loose respect for the parent, but on the other hand they want to know the facts if it was their own spouse who was cheating...
This does not make sensee..... ur stating that there is a chance things can be cleared up. Y is this different with you parents? cant they have the same reason as ur spouse? not justifying any reason though.. just pointing out that its childish to say u wud loose respect for the parent but not for the spouse....

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goood byeee

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I'd be out of the house before he can say 'Honey, let me explain..'

No, I wouldn't scream the place down or take his guts to the table...silence kills more.

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I would be devastated and that would have meant end of world for me :( I am like that.. for me, marriage is a one time thing and I would give 200% to my husband and would expect for him to at least give that much that he wont be cheating on me... I can bear his bad attitude, his anger, lack of resources... any difficulty for him as long as he is sincere and loving... after all, marriage should be a life time contract which I don't think can be easily broken without having a shattered personality... I really cannot believe how husbands/ wives can think of separating/ cheating after having such a close and loving relationship (if they have such a relationship ever)... I am not talking about forced marriages... but if you once had been happy with your spouse, then you should continue to live your life with him/ her FOREVER :)

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Why treat spouse and parents differently? why not site with Parents too and try to find out facts?

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We can NEVER think about any of our parents like this... So really dun know what would we do :O