Re: What would you do differently?
Both me and the hubs have had the same kind of upbringing where our parents have taught us to read and write urdu besides speaking it fully, despite of being in a foreign county. That's one aspect I look forward to instilling into my kids also. I cannot stand how some kids I meet have absolutely no clue what their moms or dads or grandparents are saying to them just because they cannot understand Urdu at all. It creates such a huge language barrier especially between the much older generation who do not speak English. I want my kids to realize that they are Pakistani-Indian-Americans before anything else. The last thing I want is for them to be abcds who do not have the slightest clue about where their homeland is and to answer me back in english when I am talking to them in Urdu. My fiance speaks to his parents in english even if they ask him something in urdu and I am like, Don't act like you don't even KNOW the language. It's just weird to me. I don't care if I have to come across as a paindoo mom who does not speak even one word of English but until they grasp urdu, I am going to tell my kids that mommy does not understand or speak any english so Urdu it is.