Re: What with these posts
AS, it seems you are very lucky like me, not to have to face an undesirable arranged marriage. There is nothing more influential than parental pressure and many desi gals are raised never to defy. Thats one tough nut to crack once things are in place and parents are in agreement that the marriage should take place. I'm quite sure that many gals think that maybe the parents are right, they go along with it with a little hope that maybe it will work but then find themselves faced with a lifetime of misery.
Those gals have my sincerest sympathies - most esp since there is no easy way out of the situation - either before the marriage takes place or after.