As I look back at my teen years I’m so embarassed (not the word) about what I was like. It must have been the hormones because everything, every emotion and thought was filled with so much intensity and importance. I was bursting with emotion (good and bad) and with creativity. Have you ever reread your teen diary after 15-20 years and you think, “God, what the hell was I thinking?” It was a time of so much confusion and so much opportunity. They were the best years of my life but also the worst years too. Now that I’m 30 and have two kids I’m a totally different person. I’m very mellow and everything is “Ahhn, so what”.
In some ways I miss that obsessive intensity that I had. Every new thing was “so awesome, so cool” Do you guys look back at what you were like as teens and feel you are still the same. Or was your judgement clouded by too much hormone?
Maybe thats what happens when you 'mature' a little?!? .. like you find the reason for things where as you don't kno them before or never care to find out about them... i remember i used to care for things like pets. i have priorities all wrong back then.. i didnt care for how we gonna eat tomorrow.. all i cared was i wanted a new talking parrot!!! its just an example but that only shows how naive i was. :-(
Few days ago, I was going through my teenage cousin's profile and was sort of thinking if I was more or less the same when I was her age. I think I did find it somewhat embarassing, but then I quickly realized we all go through that phase. What really counts is how we turn out in our later years.
Ask a girl who's mother died when she was a child and you know that she matured faster than anyone else. Or ask a boy who has to work in his teen years to feed his siblings and trust me at 30 he won't look back and say he was crazy in his teens.
I have lived a privileged life and thus was spoiled but thats so ordinary.
When I look back and see how and why I chose my major in university, I ask myself what was I thinking.
At this stage of mylife, even the thought of asking a twenty year old to make an important decision for me (such as choosing a major) is quite scary.
Somehow everything seemed under control at that time.
People change over time.
Saimany, I am just curious, now when you look at your husband, do you say what were you thinking? :-)
Looking back now I can’t believe how stupid and naive I was as a teenager. I didn’t do anything major or extraordinary but its still embarassing how silly I was
I’m the youngest and was spoilt quite badly and even now I can act like a spoilt brat every now and then which is crazy considering how underprivileged other people are in comparison.
When I look back at my highschool/first 2 years of univ antics, I also feel embarassed...and think to myself..what was I thinking? I was misguided and confused. But Alhamdulilah, things did turn around when I got a bit older . :)
I often think back to some of the things I got up to during university and my thought process, and wonder what on earth was that - yeah I think its the hormones. Parents really shouldnt think their kids are grown up before the age of 25. :p
I think I have very much matured up.
When u are younger u give importence to things that are not
so important. But as years go by u look back and ask yourself "what was I thinking"? :)
Same here. I was too naieve and too trusting. Now I wish I wasn't.
But I've noticed with my cousins who grew up in Pakistan anyway, that they are all more mature and seem to have more knowledge about life and peoples characters. I tend to think that kids raised in Pakistan are mature earlier.
Fayz, I was 24 when I got engaged to Aziz so I think I was in the clear, out of that delusional teen phase. I had sort of figured out what kind of guy was right for me at that point. But I was also mature enough to believe that with the Grace of God, Allah would find my soulmate. Cheesy, but true.
I just remember not having tremendous self-confidence when I was younger. But I pushed myself and forced myself into certain situations because I didn’t want to be naive and sheltered. I wanted to be strong and independent. In some ways I still feel like that little teen. When I got to a certain age in my early 20’s people would ask me how it was that I seemed so confident. That got me thinking. How did I get from point A to point B where I am now?
Oh yeah, do i know that feeling hehe. My teen diary was written in the russian alphabet ..and now its too cryptic for me to decipher. But lol its got Asif written all over it lol this one guy i had a crush on at 15 or something.
And you know saima, i have the same thing. As a teen i was quiet with everyone else except my closest circle of friends who knew i was a chatterbox. No confidence either but it just came. Now i’m very chatty and love talking to random people, hitting up a convo with anyone that is around…but i like it this way better. Shyness sux
when I look back at my teens, the only thing I would have changed , i was a shy guy in my teens, there isnt much i have not done anything to be embarrased though.
