Re: What to wear?
People are so focused on taking attention away from the bride…it would take a hell of a lot (like someone showing up to a desi wedding with a dupatta pinned to their head or someone showing up in a white/ivory gown to a western wedding) to draw attention away.
And just as an aside…there were a couple of unmarried cousins in my in-laws that showed up to a wedding with lehngas and dupattas pinned to their heads…they did it because normally they were scarves and to go without would have been wrong. Even they were ostracised by us for doing this. We told them that instead of pinning the matching dupattas to their heads they should have worn a scarf in matching colour or something. So let me be clear that when I suggest eastern attire, I am not in any way suggesting that you take the pleasure of being the bride away from her.
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Please explain where I have said that. I have repeatedly said that you should not wear what the bride is going to wear…not even the same colour.
I have been to enough weddings…both eastern and western…to know that when western people wear desi clothes, the majority of the time, they are not doing it to “blend in” or “show respect”. While these may be by-product results of their actions, they are usually doing it because our clothing is so glamourous, fancy and exotic that they thrill in being able to dress in it. It turns into a “fancy dress ball” where they are able to live out a fantasy, of sorts. (Remember that I said “the majority of the time”; not always.)
Finally…just as many of my non-desi friends have been keen to borrow/buy articles of eastern clothing to wear to our events, there are those of our community that would see a western event as an opportunity to put on something that we don’t often get to wear. If that is the reason behind your desire to dress up in a dress or skirt or gown, then by all means, indulge yourself! Just don’t use “I don’t want to upstage the bride”, or “It would be disrespectful for me to attract attention on her special day”, etc. as excuses because that is all they are .
i double checked the thread…there is not one place where i said those things…the only thing i said was k i dont want to stand out…meaning i dont want plp to stare at me for watever reason…there is not one place where i even mentioned the word BRIDE…so chill pls i will say it again…NOT EVERYONE THINKS LIKE YOU…for u its just excuses but maybe for others it their choice of dressing…
you are older than me so i respect your opinion and i promise i will try my best to put a eastern touch to my western kaprey…lol…actually after your lecture i might i mean i might change my idea of wearing western kaprey…now im more confuseddddd…phir soch mein paring :halo:
phir soch mein paring:halo: