I know I am asking this question way too early but this thing crosses my mind too often. What will I tell my daughter about her father ? What & how will she feel about it ? How will she manage her life without a father figue ?
When she will see other kids of her age having a father then what affect will it have on her tender thoughts ? If you were at my place how you would have dealt with this issue ? Keeping in mind I dont want to hurt my daughter’s feelings.
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I am sorry but what happened to the father? or are you guys seperated/divorced?
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awww i am sorry to hear that....probably she will learn to live without him....:(
btw what happened to her dad?
...and how old is your daughter?
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Hey Diamond. You won't have to explain anything to her until she is old enough to understand somethings. I guess when she's at least about 3? In any case you could make it simple and say that mummy n daddy used to live together but when you were a little baby it was not nice to live for you or your mummy to live there and it made u both happy to live somewhere else, away from things that made u sad.
At the end of the day things will work out, it will take time to get used to the situation. U don't know how things are going to be for u in 2 or 3 years time, I do wish (and believe!) that they will be much better than they are now, inshallah.
Bear in mind that someone who hasn't known anything else won't miss it.
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How old is your daughter?
My niece is 10 and her father passed tragically two years ago. She is surprising doing okay. My bhabhi has made sure that she has numerous positive male role models around her including her brothers, grandparents.
She may ask specific questions later on in life so be sure you are ready to explain them to her.
I have seen many many single parents doing a excellent job of raising there kids by themselves without a significant other and the children are okay with that.
Truth be told, I think it's harder on the spouse that it is on the kids.
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You can say daddy was an evil man.
No? :(
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Don't worry about it yet diamond - yes that day will come but you will just know instinctively how to protect her from it because you're her mum. I think something along the lines of what RupayHalwa said would be the way to go...
My baby is only a couple of months right now. After 7 months of suffering in my marriage I walked out of it for the sake of my girl. My girl's dad doesn't want to have anything to do with his daughter , he doesn't like girls. We are seperated right now but I will file divorce soon.
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^ bravo! you are a brave lady and insha’Allah you will do just fine. its better for your daughter to have you in her life as a strong, positive, role model than to see you suffering with a man who doesn’t like girls. (whattamoron- what gender does he think his mother is, you know, the woman who gave birth to him?? 
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what Rupay said is good advice. kids are remarkably resilient about these things, and she’s young enough that she won’t really miss his presence in her life. i hope you are suing for child support!
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ure so strong and brave diamond.. u have 3 kids dont u? or was that someone else.. with twin boys..
evevryone has given great advice.. and she is young enough to not even miss him.. i really dont have any opinion nor advice to give .. but i pray that the future holds goodness for you and ure offspring. inshallah
i remember when u used to post in the wedding forum with so many questions and all what a bride to be goes through.. i remember reading one post where u said ure husband was a great guy… its just really sad to see what has become…
may god give u the strength and all the power to be everything for ureself and ure kids 
inshallah
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She's too small, so you don't need to tell her anything right now. Your main focus should be strengthening yourself emotionally. In time, she will ask and you can tell her things as she grows up and is able to handle it. For now, you don't need to worry about this for the next 3 years, at least.
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I agree.
You don't need to worry about this now.
When you are emotionally strong and secure the answer will automatically come to you as it is different in every case.
Diamond...you seem to have been recently separated. I guess you are feeling quite unsure of things...the only thing you are probably sure of is that you dont want to be with him. Believe me...everything will fall in place. right now you are thinking of too many factors so you are feeling overwhelmed. I wish for you and your little girl courage and happiness always.
As for your question...yes its early now as she does not realise anything as yet. And yes you will have to deal with the matter as she grows up and you can see her personality and what approach she will respond to best.
But here are some basic factors you may want to consider:
When you talk about him, try not to be angry or bitter about it. So this means you will have to ensure you remove any of that from your own heart. If you are unable to say any good about him, dont say anything bad either. (Or at least try...it will be difficult and you will slip up, but its ok)
You dont necessarily have to wait for her to bring up the subject ...or be old enough to question you or understand the answer. What I mean is dont be afraid to use the "F " word around her...he he by this I mean Father :) A lot of people will pussy foot around it feeling its not yet appropriate. Actually when it comes up in nursery rhymes or stories or other peoples fathers, dont shy away from it. Use it as a matter of fact way.
-Dont make her feel its taboo to talk about him. Explain as emotionless and briefly as possible that you could not be together. But dont talk badly about him. At the same time dont elevate him to a point where he looks better than he was.
As your daughter grows up, she will be thankful that you did not let her grow up with anger and bitterness in her heart. That you did not imply that she should choose sides. And when she has to make any decisions in the future, she will do it with a clear mind...not on a whim dictated by emotions.
Meanwhile, enjoy your angel :)
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diamond - you need to make sure -like someone said previously - to have positive male role moldels around her. She will question where is daddy - this will be the tricky part for you to answer. If you tell her daddy is living at "another home" just to calm her ... she would definately want to meet her dad and "go to his place" once in a while. That's very natural.
Even if you have seperated and will file for divorce, I think the best option is still to have the dad present in her life. I know her dad hates girls... and want nothing to do with her... BUT if you have the WRITTEN paper work that her dad has FULL VISITATION RIGHTS on so and so day - it will allow her to feel better that AT LEAST you as a mom did not try to seperate her and her dad. She will realize that it's DAD who never wanted to be present in her life. It will just make it easier for you.