What to do

Difficulty · February 10, 2016, 8:09am

Re: What to do

It’s really obvious from your wife’s behaviour she doesn’t really like your home. She seems to want to do things, get involved and her only avenue seems to be her own mother’s place rather than yours. Most women are too busy to be going to and fro but since she feels she lacks the autonomy she’s let the house be your mother’s rather than hers. Quite honestly it seems a new house is the only way. Or the new baby might make her busy?

And regardless of what the whole world wants and should be done talking about backing away from her mother’s place in the same breath as talking about what you want for mother is a bad bad move. It will only create competition so whatever you do pace it. Work on one concern and then the other because your wife will see the parallels. I mean it’s basic common sense she’ll be pissed if you want to visit your mother whenever you want and she can’t do that as per your wishes. Better start selling tickets for that battle. Lmao.

Also keep a schedule with her. Saturday is movie night, tuesday is xyz day so she gets into a routine. Stick to it as firmly as possible. You’ll have to speak up about your schedule whenever she makes a plan without you. Tell her neice, maybe next week before she can speak up. Nothing’s going to happen if you keep your thoughts to yourself.

Before I got married my wife was working part-time where she would do a day one week and sometimes more. The few friends she had were from university and she only used to see them once a month at the most. Her life was pretty much to sit at home with her mother. I have tried to get her to do things but to no avail, to the point that the things I used to do I stopped to sit at home but to be honest that wasn’t me as I am more more used to going to the gym three times a week and keeping myself busy but she would rather stay at home.

I even tried to force the issue of her finding a job to which she replied that it is my duty to provide for her and if she wants to work then she would.