Maybe ur dad sees everyone in that light because he's projecting the way he is? Therefore he doesnt want to make the same mistake with you - so no one is good enough for you and yet he can blame you for not being married.
If you like the guy and your dad's insecurities (lack of a better word) or responsibility is hindering ur life then take the reins. I think you should talk with the guy maybe hint at some home difficulties & let him know you are interested & ask for more time.He's been waiting a year but it would be springing it on ur dad. If ur dad doesn't take the bait , move ahead with the help of mum maybe an elder who ur dad respects /listens to?
If nothing else you can always tell him he encouraged u to take matters into ur own hands. :D J/k : follow the advice above though because good ppl are hard to find and time will fly by .
Many times he keeps on taunting me with talks like, look at yourself, within few years your hair will turn white but still you aren't married.
Usually in threads like such, I always try to explain things from Parent's perspectives, but in your case, I must say that your father is not just unreasonable, but plain rude.
Explain your situation to your guy. If he sticks with you, he's the right man for you and he'll be able to give you the emotional support needed to break free from your dad's clutches.
But for me, since he is the decision-maker at home, his approval is very much necessary in order for anything to move ahead.
it means last option is only to involve him somehow,then you know better how to convince him,how he will come on the track and may be your mother knows better after all she spent her life with him,
Clearly your father is not interested in getting you married off. I meant it is best to go to your SO and get him to be proactive in making this happen. You also appear to be your own enemy - showing unwillingness to priced unless father approves. You have to grow up and make your future now.
I faced a similar situation...what I did? I simply eliminated the father from the wedding ceremony (including anyone else making a noise about it) Btw what the hell is a cousin sister? Never heard of this term...
Your dad's being strange and unreasonable. I'd say better to let the guy know and see if he can convince his parents to go ahead without having your dad involved? What does your mom say in all of this? Doesn't she want you to get married?