What to do

Lifestyle Relationships
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I have 2 friends. We are friends from 11th grade. In fact one of them is my friend from 1st grade. so its been 20 years of friendship minimum.

One is in USA and one in Pakistan. I am not sure what happened in many ways, they grew apart. One became more religious and anti-west (guess which one :D), while the other turned so liberal, in fact atheist that to him Islam and/or Muslims are the reason behind all worlds problem.

They were always arguing on facebook and now one sent me a note that he kicked the other one out of his friends list.

I am in a bad situation. I dont want their friendship to be gone, but I understand the pov of the one who is angry.

what to do?

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Let them fight their own battles. If you don't have a problem with either, keep your friendship with both.

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nothing. let the boys sort it out themselves. sometimes friendships need to end. its run its course. you just be friends with each on your own.

let me guess...its the one in the West that kicked the Pakistani one out eh?

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But Niks, what is the responsibility of good friends then (me being their good friend) ?

No, that pakistani kicked the USA one out

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First grade = 6 years old
20 years of friendship

20 years + 6 years = 26 years
TLK = 26 years old

:omg:

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Just joking :sheen:

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but they are opposite in term of faith. dont poke your nose into their matter.

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Sehrysh, you dimmed the word “minimum” ..:mad: I said 20 years minimum .. that means 20 years from 11th grade ..

After doing calculation, I realized that its much more than 20 years even from 11th grade .. :hehe:

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lol sehrysh.

i actually LOL

oh wow..im surprised tlk...i thought the pakistani wouldnt stop with his dawah and the american one got sick of it.

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You call that selective reading or creative calculations - Bernie Madoff would be proud of me :wink:

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more than faith, its their old habit of arguing to the extent of fighting over every issue. It could be politics, sports or religion.

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You try and make the one who is at fault understand where he went wrong. If you guys have been friends for so long, i hope you have that much trust on each other than you wont take sides or favour the other but just go with what you think is the right thing to do.

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let me guess - firenze and mukobhai?

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so it is more than faith.

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I would give them space and wait till they ask for help. Sometimes after thinking for a while they may want to talk about it between them both.

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can we stop discussing my age now :mad:

No, the liberal one, according to the conservative one, went too far in insulting islam and hadith and quran

at least he made few billions. and you lost my respect .. :mad:

Ok maybe that was too harsh ..

or maybe not :hmmm:

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there is a hadith that states something like: part of being a good muslim is leaving something that does not concern him.

you have good solid friendships with both....dont ruin that by playing the referee for their match.

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:snooty: Fine! Then I want my flower back :mad:

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That is true (at least I like to believe) that they both trust me and know that I wont take sides. Only issue is that unless I take a religious pov, I cant prove the liberal one that he is at fault.

Almost :D

its more like opposite personalities.

I dont think that they will ask for help, but your advice about giving them space and wait is definitely a wise one. I will.

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ab khush.
:sheen:

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I lol'ed