what should I do when my good friends husband is hitting on me and i told him off still calling me, shuld i go ahead tell it to my friend or not cuz this guys said his wife will never believe me and i dont want to loose my friendship, help, wat to do…
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why are you even attending his calls?
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im not he lefts msges..... i told my bro do u think my bro should handle this or go to his wife,,
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Oh my god how awful!
If he isnt leaving u alone even tho u have told him to do so, it'll b hard for ur friend to hear it, i personally think she shud b told. If it was the other way round, wouldnt u want to know?
On a practical level u cud make a list of the times and dates of all the phone calls hes making and u can hand this to ur friend as well and u can present it to him . howeva if he denies it, u will have to b prepared to lose ur friendship. But think if the situation was reversed wudnt u want to know the truth? At least she can deal with it in her own way. If it came out later on (for whateva reason) and ur friend found out abt her husband harassing u, i think she'll b really mad at u for not telling her abt it instead of hearing it on the grapevine. Its an awful situation to b in tho.
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I didnt read the post where u said uve told ur brother. It depends on how ur bro wud deal with it. Mayb that wud b a better option if he is prepared to get involved.
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i suggest you receive his call atleast once or twice..record it, and make your friend listen to it..that way she would know you are not lying..but, be careful when you talk to him, make the conversation very clear...ask him why he's calling you, he needs to stop, you will tell his wife..and you are not interested..blah blah....
and then see what happens...if i was in that kind of situation..i would quit hanging out with that friend, especially when she is a very good friend..i wouldn't want to cause any problems in her married life..so i woul step back, and cut ties with her.
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i think u should try to ignore and cut off ur relationship wid ur frnd for a while..change ur number or sumfin if he is being such a @33#0!$
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He is just yakking. Yakking to keep you away from his wife. Show her his damn messages.
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If he is leaving messages...just take em to his wife and let her listen to them herself
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Your friend's husband needs a "Giddarh Kut". Here the recipe, invite him at your house, when he enters, put a blanket on him then hit him with golf club/bat/baseball bat/hockey till you can no longer hear him screaming.
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Yar, 
somehow I find this very dsturbing
And I agree with the rest. Or else some one will be get hurt even more.
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Well you have to take everything into consideration. If you do in fact show your friend her husbands messages, she might not take it that well or may even hurt her. But yeah its a good idea! He would be caught red handed that way. I hope you saved his messages.
By the way, if you dont mind me asking how is he hitting on you?
what kinda things does he say?
is he talking hanky panky, or more friendly or seductive? or what???
The reason i’m asking this silly question is cuz your friends reaction maybe stronger and will depend on the kind of message he is leaving you.
But anways…
all the best
I would never wanna be in this situation though:bummer:
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I wouldnt tell your friend...it will just put you in a very akward situation. Stay away from him and dont answer his calls. It's best you put a distance between them rather then cause any ill feelings towards each other. i know that would be very difficult to do since you are good friends with her but perhaps it will be best for everyone.
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Get him caught red handed!! Be firm and show your anger when disclosing it to your friend.
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If you cut off all ties with your friend that may stop her husband from hitting on you but he will surely find a substitute for you and continue with his ways. If you get him caught that will surely damage your friend's marriage and most probably her relationship with you too. Damned if you do damned if you don't. You will lose your friend either way.
First let your brother deal with the guy since he is aware of his behaviour now. If he still doesn't stop distance yourself. And if he still doesn't stop then tell on him, with proof of course.
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dont bother telling ur friend
its not worth it
ignore him and don't contact them for a while....when you do see your friend see her alone
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If you dont mind possibly losing a friend, tell her. It's upto her to decide what she does with the information.
I was and still am in a situation like this. It's a very tough call.
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I don't think its a hard call. Its quite simple really. If this 'friend' is a really good friend to you then you should definately go and speak to her before she finds out from someone else. Its not even about that, i think it is ur duty as a friend to be honest to her. So what if he says she won't believe you. He may be saying that so you don't go and tell her. Sit down and have a good honest chat with her, i also recommend you record his message for evidence if she wants that.
Good Luck
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Seriously, if she's your friend, you should tell her about this...
Your integrity will come under fire if she or anyone else finds out about this at a later stage...and you'll be implicated as having entertained such behaviour and will no doubt get accused of all sorts...and I agree with Femme, if not you than it'll sure as heck be someone else he hits on...!
If you lose your friend than so be it, the fact is that as a real friend it's your duty to be honest with her...whether she believes you or not is her call...at least you know you've done your bit...
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In my opinion, you should tell her. She deserves to know