what to do when you are not able to trust people …and throwing yourself in a ditch…
even when you are willing to trust people around you…
…and what to do when all this is becuase of your own family ..who made you feel oh so insecure about each and everything..(you cant run away from your family).. what to do when all this **** is always in your mind that" he’ll do this" she’ll do that"…when you are just not able to think positive about ANYTHING…whose fault is this…
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when everyone gives up on u, supreme being STILL is with u … find calmness in prayers if u can…
it takes a long time to snap outta this nontrust situation.. family is a blessing most of the time, but if they start doing nasty stuff, its the harshest reality of life at the same time too ..
feel better janu
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yea you are right faijee...
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and…be strong.. ANYTHING and i mean! ANYTHING that gives u trouble, mentally-dump it from you… stop worrying for it/him/her regardless how close it is to u ..
try finding YOURSELF to be the best friend..people may call u lonely/loner and diss u for that.. but when survival and happiness is on the line, SELF is the best friend u can EVER get… 
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any BTW what are you doin here… aren’t you sleepy:bash: so jao:sleep2:
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It is you and only you who can sort this trust issue out. It might not be important in the long run as to who is responsible for this but what is important in the long run that you find a way to start trusting people to some extent. I can relate to the feeling as to what happens when you cannt trust people anymore but thats how life goes. Good luck :)
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you've got to get over the consequences of having your trust betrayed. what will happen if someone you trust betrays you? will it kill you? no? then it can only make you stronger. every adverse situation which you scrape through makes you a stronger person.
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Most families are like that. They care for u and want to see you happy n safe!!!
usually they are scared of others and feel insecure themselves.
They are so caring about you that the saftey becomes their paremount responsibility and they start perceiving things negatively. like, if you want to go out with friends, thoughts of being robbed, kidnapped or even worse comes to their mind.
All one can do is be honest, open and friendly with family and try to earn their confidence and make them believe you can handle things by your own in a respectable manner.
Fault! as you have asked mostly lies with the family.
More the trust, Less the insecurity!!!
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ummm thanks wanderkind ...thats was something ummmmm really nice...
thanks Q bhai......you are so sweet..
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They just wanted you to be safe but now its upto you what you do with that.
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Visualise how a postive outcome in ur life wud be like...getting over insecurity is hard, and sometimes after a bunch of bad experiences, making urself think positive is even harder. U have to train urself to see the good side of everything. Negative experieces r good in their own way, but u shud learn from them and then move past them. Everyone has their own techinique of doing so, but i think u sorta have to see how u want it to be, then ur more likely to follow it...visualise that goal in ur head. Also, ur gona have to take the risk of getting hurt again. Our parents sometimes over protect us, and sometimes it affects us negatively and instead makes us so afraid of things in the world. As children, parents want to keep us safe and don't want us to take risks. But as we grow up, we realise that it's difficult to move on in life, if u don't take any risks at all. And looking past ur own neediness in this issue, u will have to laugh at urself, ur mistakes and keep remembering that life is too short to be down in the dumps all the time. To believe in urself again, ur gona have to take little steps and be brave...then once u have had one success it will give u more confidence to keep thinking positive in the future...hope that makes sense.
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From your post, it looks like the problem exists in the ‘incomplete persona’.
It’s sad that, in our culture kids are mostly not allowed to grow by them.
They are constantly being watched and steered against the spirit and nature of the kid.
Mostly in Pakistani culture, elder do not give much attention to kids, so many times they are being ignored and hence that results in mistreated persona.
You can trust people only if you have trust on you. Trust every one but:
- You should not expect in return something
- You must identify the capacity of the person you are trusting
- You be required to get awareness with your own restrictions set by you and the family
- You have to make out few steps in advance that are next to come
- You must comprise the philosophy to live and to let other live
I would say trust every one, but don’t expect anything…
I trust all, cuz I have trust on me