i want to call my kids ( inshallah) adam, if its a boy and Iman if a girl.
my fiance would like to call the kids fatima, if a girl..and i know that fatima is a islamic name and so on, so i cannot really argue against it can i? I just dont want to call my daughter that name but somehow i get made to feel guilty because its such an islamic name. What can i do?
Many thanks
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nadz, ur not even married yet! so dont worry :)
the hubz and i changed our minds a few times before we even decided what to call our baby daughter. And you can always do like a middle name.. we named ours Heba Iman + Surname
Check out the meanings and see how they work together.. Dont stress about something that hasnt even happened yet.
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^ I agree with Sadzz. One thing at a time, Nadzz. Get married first. Adjust to your new life. And then worry about children's names. No, there is nothing wrong with not liking a religious name. A friend and I were both having a discussion on the name Fatima and we both felt that it wasn't a very graceful sounding name. You're not going to burn in hell for not being too fond of a name. As long as you have respect for the Prophet's (SAWS) daughter, Fatima, that's the most important thing. People will always have opinion. My name is Aisha. I happen to really like my name and the way it sounds. Others are not too crazy about it. It's no big deal.
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^ my bhabhi's name is Aisha.. and my bro has named both his daughters around her name.. Isha and Alisha.. people get so confused
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^ lol
we keep running into should we use the gora version of the name or the desi one? my husband loves gabriel for a boy, and i love jibreel. actually, i love both and can't decide. both are such that people won't mangle them when they're pronounced in schools here, etc., but we're stuck- is gabriel too anglo for a half white/half brown baby?
same with our two girl options- there is either Eden or Jannah. he's definitely NOT into Jannah and i think i support him in that.... but again, is Eden too gora?
and then our second option- what about Eva? Its a direct translation of Bibi Hawwa's name, but i cannot imagine naming my daughter Hawwa.
so yeah, i get where you're coming from, Nadz! names are important!
Adam is a good choice. i know a lot of couples who are considering Joshua (Yahya) or Zachary (Zachariah) too, but again with the anglo issue... hrm....
also, with Fatima, i don't like how non-desi people have a hard time pronouncing it so it either becomes "fatty-ma" (lots of teasing there) or "fa-teema", which i feel is a completely different name-- its not "faa-ti-maa" like the desi version.
also with Iman, i'd probably spell it Emaan, given the whole iPod, iTouch, etc. naming craze... you don't want her to be teased for being an i-Man when she's a girl, you know?
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^haha. When my uncle had a kid, my aunt want to give him a gora name but then she decided to settle on having a gora/Muslim. In the end they decided to name their son kamran but pronounce it cameron as in cameron Diaz.
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You could make Fatima a middle name (it's mine!).
I love Jibreel too!
Anyway, as others have said, don't worry about it yet. It's too soon! And when the time comes, you'll see the child, and know which name fits best.
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oh god, it doesnt matter when the time comes, id rather ask first because at the time i doubt id be sitting on forums discussing it...is it a crime to askbefore something shappened...does it really matter. anyway thanks though. i dnt feel so guilty about not liking the name fatima now.
many thanks
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your not even married yet...why are you worried about baby names....take it easy there...one step at a time eh...
I remember this song from childhood....A&B sitting on the tree....k-i-s-s-i-n-g...1st comes love...then comes marriage....then comes the baby in the baby carriage...
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long term planing 
oh god, it doesnt matter when the time comes, id rather ask first because at the time i doubt id be sitting on forums discussing it...is it a crime to askbefore something shappened...does it really matter. anyway thanks though. i dnt feel so guilty about not liking the name fatima now.
many thanks
theres nothign wrong with thinking about baby names... but to have an argument about it even before anything has happened, is probably not such a good idea. Thats all :)
And trust me, once you're pregnant, u'll be thinking about baby names ALLLLL the time.
What i did was, when i got pregnant, I picked out a few names i liked and tried them all for a week... like if i liked hmmm riya for example, i'd call my bubz riya for a week... so i tried one until we both were really happy with the choice :)
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my whole life i wanted to name my baby boy if i had one, hamza.
my husband loved the name jibrail and adam
we got married and got pregnant.. the name we have chosen is neither of the 2 above. hamzah was a bully my husband used to get beaten up by, jibrail and adam only sound good if u pronounce them the gora way, i abhor the way adam is said in urdu aaaa-dum and jibra-eeeeel .. shudder
u change ure mind so much once u do get pregnant.. oh man the number of lists we had... the amount of research.. hehe..
things chnage when u get pregnant.... no harm in looking up names now or discussing.. its nice to talk bout the future... but just funny how something that seemed so imp ure whole life suddenly is meaningless once u actually do reach that situation (in this case pregnancy).
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Do as how a chinese joke goes no offence to china people
They say when they cant decide on a name, or even if they can they have one way to settle it ..
get a spoon chuck it down the well, and whate evver the noise you hear .. thas the name u keep .. like ding ding dong :p
On a serious note.
You could ask a few friends what they wud want as a name for their child and once you have a few names .. try to choose one .. your not knicking their name btw. its called whose baby is born first gets to keep that name :D
or you could ask your local imaam for a real nice islamic name for your baby.
:)
^haha. When my uncle had a kid, my aunt want to give him a gora name but then she decided to settle on having a gora/Muslim. In the end they decided to name their son kamran but pronounce it cameron as in cameron Diaz.
Is someone calling me?
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We couldn’t agree either because the hubby wanted our kids to have french names!! I was like yeah right 
… maybe a middle name but not their first, so we decided that i would choose the first names, he would choose the middle names… we have 2 girls and i’m pretty happy with their names… they have muslim first names, french middle names and a double barreled surname, seeing as the hubby took my islamic surname, but didn’t want to get rid of his family name… it’s a mouthful i know.. 
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sounds beautiful! i'd love to know what they are, if you wouldn't mind posting them here :)
hubby wanted our future kids to have anglo names too (julia??? wtf.) but i insisted we choose names that are, if not pakistani, then at least arabic/middle-eastern so people can recognize our kids are half desi/half gora. its their name and a big part of their identity- and i already know hubby's genes are strong enough that likely our kids will look gora more than desi- so there needs to be something there that comes from their mother's heritage! we're looking at arabic names mostly.
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WHAT!?!? I'm with your hubby on this one.... Hungarian names rock SGC.. eg:
Anasztázia
Angyalka
Anikó
Annuska
And if you're adamant on having middle eastern names, then give them a a bit of hungarian spice... like instead of sophia.. it can be Zsófia.. ;)
i want to call my kids ( inshallah) adam, if its a boy and Iman if a girl.
my fiance would like to call the kids fatima, if a girl..and i know that fatima is a islamic name and so on, so i cannot really argue against it can i? I just dont want to call my daughter that name but somehow i get made to feel guilty because its such an islamic name. What can i do?
Many thanks
In the thread you said hubby and in post said fiance and truth might be a boy friend. Just kidding this is my way to point out mistake.
I felt ppl here say they are engaged or nikahfied but they use that for boy friend.
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^ She said hubby cos she wants to know real life examples where women and THEIR HUBBIES have been in this predicament...
maroush, nooo wayyyyy! come on! Anastasia?? Anya sounds too close to his ex, Anka. Aniko is AW-nee-ko which I’m not loving, and Annuska he hates with a passion. hahaha 
the only hungarian name i like is Éva but then its really, really common and there’s several Évie’s and Éva’s in his family already.
we were both thinking of Amani for a girl.
Origin:
Arabic
Meaning:
Desires; aspirations; wishes
Origin:
Swahili
Meaning:
Harmony; peace
i was also trying to convince him to go vintage with Malika- it means Queen in Hungarian AND Arabic! how cool is that? but no go. he says its got “lik” in it which could lead to a lot of teasing.
on a similar note, do you know: is Amelle an authentic french name and any ideas as to its meaning?
i know Emel is Turkish but its meaning is Desire. not sure if i like that… Meaning, origin and history of the name Emel - Behind the Name