ok like i said before, brother in law threatening my sister and blackmailing her etc. now his whole faMILY have made a web of lies about her and have even made up stuff about me and mum. they saying mum has accused my mums brothers daughter, of ruining her daughters marriage. which is a lie. they are trying to ruin my mums realtins with her brother. and they said I said my MIL and SIL are evil , etc, trying to ruin my own household…then the wors thing is the dad of the son, took qasam on his deads wife mitti, ( whatever that is)that he wa telin the truth, for them qasams are nothing. his dad is known for having affiars and his brother is the same, the brother has had 2 divorces. so for them divorce is ntohing. they are now ruining my mum, who cries all day because she thinks her brothers believe them over her, they are sitting there lieing about us all, and we cant do anything. hes in pak, shes here in uk.
mum thinks my sis life is ruined, its not, i told my mum itsok, she was only married 4 months, better than her life being ruined, but mum says wats gna happen in future…etc…so i dnt know she hasnt got khulla yet, but will do. how do these people get their punishment, people that lie and betray you this way. how does it all work, we are good people, yet its my mum and dad whose going thru hell, they are over it and happy, and they are the ones lieing and decivieing people how is this fair.
Re: what to do, mums crying and the worlds turned upside down.
Patience is the only thing which can get you and your family through this ordeal. Time will heal all the wounds.
May Allah(SWT) give your mother the strength to face all these issues. Ameen.
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It's a painful and difficult phase for you & your family no doubt but sooner or later all of you including your sister will get over with this phase. Punishment , revenge just leave all of this on Allah I know easier said than done but do this for your own peace of mind. Remember Allah is there & He is watching uski lathi bey awaz hoti hai magar parti zaroor hai He has his own timings for doing justice.
I have been through this hell I know your feelings trust me your lives will get better as you all will move on.
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:( I hope it gets better for you and your family soon. You can't stop what people are saying about you, and if your uncles are stupid enough to believe what an outsider tells them about their sister, then good riddance! You don't need these negative people in your life. You will be way better off without them.
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May Allah give you the patience and courage that is required to move forward.
The past is done and I'm sure that as time passes you will see a silver lining......
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Did your sister get a divorce from him Sara?
Don't give a **** about what the world is saying. You can tell your side of the story to people who matter and end all further discussion right there. Right now you need to focus first on your sister (who I gather is still very young) and help her recover from this trauma. I'm sorry, but your mom and dad need to swallow their own pain and stand by your sister too. Encourage her to focus on her education. I'm sure marriage will happen when the time is right - help her stand on her own feet for now.
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Who cares what other people say? Obviously your parents made a terrible and incredibly stupid decision marrying your sister off in this way? You think they can get out of it without any consequences?
Get your sister out of this marriage and find a way to move on with your lives. Pursue something positive. And stop paying attention to stupidity.
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but how can these people do this, will they get their punishment,...
Your parents are wasting time crying over the mess they have made and are just making it harder for everyone to move on. They need to wipe their tears, stop being drama queens, and fix this situation.
I think your parents need to focus on making amends for getting your sister into this mess. Let Allah SWT deal with everyone else. They should do everything in their power to help your sister start a new and better life.
And if your parents are incapable of even that, then you need to shut your ears to them for a while and help your sister start a new life. You are all wasting time.
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well quite frankly they deserve it, they made a stupid decision to honor their own siblings over thier own children...now they should deal with the consequences....the only one who deserves any sympathy is the unfortunate "wife"!
Re: what to do, mums crying and the worlds turned upside down.
ok like i said before, brother in law threatening my sister and blackmailing her etc. now his whole faMILY have made a web of lies about her and have even made up stuff about me and mum. they saying mum has accused my mums brothers daughter, of ruining her daughters marriage. which is a lie. they are trying to ruin my mums realtins with her brother. and they said I said my MIL and SIL are evil , etc, trying to ruin my own household.....then the wors thing is the dad of the son, took qasam on his deads wife mitti, ( whatever that is)that he wa telin the truth, for them qasams are nothing. his dad is known for having affiars and his brother is the same, the brother has had 2 divorces. so for them divorce is ntohing. they are now ruining my mum, who cries all day because she thinks her brothers believe them over her, they are sitting there lieing about us all, and we cant do anything. hes in pak, shes here in uk.
mum thinks my sis life is ruined, its not, i told my mum itsok, she was only married 4 months, better than her life being ruined, but mum says wats gna happen in future....etc....so i dnt know she hasnt got khulla yet, but will do. how do these people get their punishment, people that lie and betray you this way. how does it all work, we are good people, yet its my mum and dad whose going thru hell, they are over it and happy, and they are the ones lieing and decivieing people how is this fair.
If she's getting khula, that should solve one problem, right? If their family is known for all the stuff you mentioned, how seriously would anyone take them when they badmouth your family the way they're doing? And...if they're known for the type of stuff you mentioned, why did your family allow your sister to marry into that family in the first place. Sorry, but Sara's got a point.
