What to do in this situation?

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do u doubt my love :(

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How dare anyone doubt sheyn’s love :emmy:

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Sheyn and Straight_up sitting on a tree :jano:
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:rotfl:

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Awwww, NaMaan don’t be jealous if sheyn has her eyes on someone else :snooty:

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I am not jealous … I am happy for you two … :@:

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Good. We’re happy for us too. :halo:

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This would be cruel. If you were to do this prehaps it would bring her and Husband even closer together! I feel so sorry for this girl. We all make mistakes but you should learn to forgive, otherwise you become this bitter person seeking revenge - which doesn't do anyone any good.

Let her enjoy her life and accept the fact that she doesn't want you in it. I know you are hurt but the best way to find happiness and get over this all is to move on with your life and get married yourself.

Stop thinking of her now. She is in the Past. There are so many girls to choose from in Pakistan. :)

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I don't see where and how she cheated. Assuming she is really married to someone and not playing game. Not giving an idea to this guy to start checking on her or keep waiting. The moment he informs her he is gotten over her for good and stops contacting her after that, the truth will be revealed.

She asked for marriage in some emotional moment. The guy thought she was her for life.
She is a person and not a commodity.

Don't see her fault at all. If the guy has lot more emotions for her this does not mean she has to reply with same.

Isn't that enough that she married to someone else (if she did) to show she was not interested seriously enough in him.

Marriage and living life together has lot more to do than falling to emotions.

I don't think guy really wants to take revenge. Its just his reaction to the hurt feelings and shows extreme desperation or even depression.

So the advise is:

Make someone else happy who needs his love, and really cherish his love. This will be far greater than living in miserable life.

Deep down she feels sorry for this guy or even feels lucky not to get married with emotional person with imbalance mind.

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That girl wasnt at fault .. you are or your friend is ...

she had been with you for a few years , and you still needed time for marriage ?... if she had kept on waiting for you , lets say you refused ... her life would have been miserable ...

guys still can get married at 35 , its harder for girls to find a good husband the minute they cross mid 20's ....

I think , you should have seriously tried to understand her situation when she requested marriage. Yes we all can find a million excuses to not get married ... some men do this , because they take their girl for granted ...

IT WAS YOUR FAULT you refused her .... so now why all this talk of revenge and punishment?

why should she remain friends with you ? she is in Nikah, she is only answerable to her husband not you . if you want to break her home today by creating problems for her ... please do remember that tomorrow you might have a wife and the same can happen to you ... one day you will have a daughter and imagine some man blackmailing your daughter !

so please dont stoop to those low levels ... you werent ready for marriage , you got your way ... who knows what situation she was in and how much she needed the security of a safe home and marriage , she made a good choice .

Now let her be ...

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*****! this guy’s posts reminded me of redvelvet! :smack: Couldn’t really read the first chapter of this book, but from what I understood:

Dude, suicide is the answer*.* :k:

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DIWANA speakes the truth the absolute truth:)

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buddy if the guy really loves her, i believe the best thing he can do to show his love is leave her alone, C`mon love does not mean signing a contract of “YOURS FOREVER” now she is happily married and let her be and yeah it is easier said then done but i have done it and it is MashaAllah 2 years since i contacted her, I had somewhat the same story. Boss tell the guy to live and let live. :k:

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ohhh bhai don`t give such ideas FBI is all over such stuff and Allah na karey aisa kuch hua they will be coming after you. btw kee haal hai Jaanwar pra :hugs:

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yes plz get over with it ! there are plenty of nice girls out there for cute and loving guy like this one. She does not deserve to be given so much importance and plzzz it was an online relationship once this guy will get into a real life relationship he will realise how much time he has wasted on her ! I pray for the betterment of this guy to Allah May Allah bless him ameen

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i hope by telling us all your story and by so many people taking interest in it and having sympathy for you, it makes you feel better. But tbh, i think you have to understand the girl was alone and her parents had passed away, she needed family, not a long time affair so she did was she thought best in her interest. Don't judge a person merely by deciding whether they cheated or anything like that. If you were friends with them for so long that probably means you would agree that she is not a bad or deceiving person. if you were not engaged to her formally, then she had no obligation and she was always free to do what she wanted with her life.

my two cents!

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Thanks for all your caring responses.

The Guy understands all the logic of most of you have said like:-

-if you really loved her, you wudnt want to ruin her life.

-you shudnt go for reveange, forget her and move on.

The Guy says that it is not the love that hurt most, it is the trust he had on her-

The Guy would want to ask you people, if somebody you revered, loved and TRUSTED so much. Did something like this, on-top of that said to you they dont care if you kill yourself- knowing how attached they were to you.
-ok fine admitted they are married, but they dont give you the little frinship that will can keep u content.

How Would You Feel??

Wouldnt you feel cheated. They ruined your life, they leave you peaceless..would you want them to be peaceful?
Wud you still want them to be happy by making you unhappy?

I gues nobody here has been cheated that way. By the way the reader has been hurt similarly before by close ones but he got over those, thrug the logic- u all people above desrcribed.

But This time he doesnt want to be such a nice guy anymore. He has lost trust in people. There is no question trusting/going for another girl.

The Guy Does Not CARE, aftert this wheter she thinks of him a loser or whatver. He tried being NIce Chap, he had no gain.

By the Way the Guy is curious what the Snowy-White meant by:

makzafaat-e-Amal

The Girl isnt action is reallya mean reveange, All he wants to do is sesnsibly Tell Her husband that she has lied to him, saying she had no bf before, and that infact she had not one but 4 bf.s before him, and that so he is not such luckly chap as he thought, thinkng hes the only one.

The Guy sends her brief texts evry other week, usualy poilitely apolozing and asking her for re-frinship.-
-she ignores him every time.

He feels infuriated. He feels her ignorance more confirms the notion she cheated him, and she deserves to be disclosed upon.

The Guy feels mauybe it would actually be a 'good' thing to do to inform her husband of the truth of what she really is.
And maybe it would also be better for the girl the sooner this came out, rather than later.
Also she once before out of fear texted the Guy her husbnads number out of fear, to show her husbnad knows him asa good friend and hes cool with him.
The number turned out to be her a cousins. She tried to fool him. The Guy texted her back saying he know she lied to him that guy isnt her hubby.

Should The Guy Speak To Her 'ReaL' Husband?

Is This a right or wrong action.

If it is a major wrong pls explain. If not Then all encourgemtnets for it Appreciated.

All Comments and

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^ everyone has told you it's the wrong decision. Why do you feel the need to tell her husband? what will he gain out of it?

She did not cheat him, yes she could have ended things in a better way but she did not cheat on him.

And how do you know the husband will believe you? What if she turns around and spins it as you being some nobody who's ego is bruised b/c you keep ignroing him (I wouldnt' blaem her if she did that)?

Seriously, who dyou think you are?

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OK Fine She is Married. She cheated him or not Whatver. She needed quick marriage, Fine. But refering to this, the guy did not make her wait a whole lifetime he told her he needed only 6 months, to become fully independant. But she did not even wait for 2 months. Anyhow-

But isnt it crueler than she doesnt even care to give just the ounce of frhsip that wud be enough to make him happy?
He doesnt want an affair with her. He just needs some attention.

He hates being neglected.

Also The Guy is not here for sympathy. Hes here for advice from mature people.

This is not a Joke .

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Dude , no one is treating this as a Joke as you claim .. yeah? ... we at GS are taking the time to tell you and your GUY .... that you two need a grip on your emotions and actions ....

whats the meaning of friendship? would you want your wife to maintain friendship with her ex? ... friendship is earned through mutual respect ... look at yourself .. what are you doing? you are DEMANDING friendship as if its her farz to be friends with you ..

if i was in that girls place , I would have surely had you boxed down by my husband if you even dared to harm me in any way... you are just thinking evil , nothing else ... she is clearly ignoring you , feeling uncomfortable with you trying to keep in touch with her .... she HAS moved on .. you are no longer a somebody in her life ... yeah?

accept that and move on . you being emotional and all doesnt suit a guy at all ... you will lose the last bit of respect she might have had in her heart for you with all these herkatein ...

this may sound rude to you , but trust me , I am telling you this with experience , you will not be able to harm that girl or her marriage , she was your friend before marriage .. she hasnt done anything to let her husband down after marriage .. so let it go ...

if you are angry , pray several rakats after namaz and ask Allah mian to bless you with sakoon in your heart and give you the power to move on in life .

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I would tell this guy to stop actin like a frikkin pu**y and get a life!

Stop actin like a girl, did you ever have a father figure or role model in your life that was a male? if you did you wouldn't be actin like a freak.