what to ask a potential mate?

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Re: what to ask a potential mate?

There are a variety of things:
1) Do you have a problem with your wife working after the wedding?
2) How do your react in a difficult situation?
3) If i did something you didnt like and we are sitting amongst company, what would you do?
4) How religious are you/or not?
5) How controlling are you/ or not? etc etc.

There is a whole bunch of things but these are the ones that come to mind.

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Re: what to ask a potential mate?

boyi,

i agree, partly.

please know, that in order for someone to be daring, when decisions need to be made, espicalliy life-long decisions, fear does stare on one’s face and that becomes the motivation to be or not to be…

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lol id just know the person beforehand

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Totally agree that fear is natural. If someone doesn't have the fear, I'd take think that the person is either not aware of what he/she is doing, a careless, naive person.

But, fear must not stop up us from doing something. Fear must not hinder us, rather make us take a careful path..... Thats my stand..... The fear of getting into an accident must not stop me from driving but force me to drive carfully..... fear of water must not hinder me from learning swimming....

Besides, there are people one can lean on, there are people who can take away one's fears and give us our confidence back. Nobody knows when how and where we will find them. Keep eyes open ..... ;)

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keep eyes open... winking all the way! good night, hazoor.

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i don't ask irrelevant questions :p

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Re: what to ask a potential mate?

I would ask these questions (aside from basic info like age/education/job/family history):
1) How do you feel about wife working after marriage? How do you feel if she chose to stay home if she is working now?
2) How do you feel about household chores, if both partners are working?
3) Get info on his religous level, whether he prays, normal stuff to make sure he practices a little at least.
4) Find out about his lifestyle (bahanai se). Maybe he was previously a club kid and now fronts to be a mullah....
5) Future living situation. Will you two be living seperate or with his parents. Some might make comments of how rude not to want to live with family, but be HONEST to yourself. If your gonna have issues later with the In-Laws, you might as well clear this up-front, and decide whether you can deal with it instead of having saas-bahu conflicts later.
6) His views on life, his interests, his passions. Does he have any real passion? Anything he cares for or stands up for?

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Are you that bad :p

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My dad asked him “were you married or engaged before?”
And right after he said no, my chachu asked “do you have kids” :smack:

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I wud ask if she throw things when angry...temper wali ladkian scares the heck outta me!

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i'd ask him just one question. "you mummy or me?" if he says "u janeman.. u...always and forever", he then is eligible. i will consider him.

if he takes more than 5 seconds to think about this i'd dump him.

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^ Trying to break the bond between mother and son; not good.

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For anyone interested in getting married or is about to get married, I suggest reading Blissful Marriage. It has lots of advice and an entire section on what to ask your potential spouse.

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u are setting a very wrong precedence.
wait until u become a mom, and ur son does that to u, too.
so, please be not a tractor on someone's blood relations, as long as they delibrately make ur relationship with ur spouse, go sour. would u like to choose between ur mom and him? or the other way around? think again...

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:yawn: :sleep:

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u should know the answer :D

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u gotta ask them "paper or plastic" and "can i get fries with that shake"

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did not post that, every body knows.

u are the one who blah blahs all the time

that is why u are so damn tired!

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how he wil be looking like, when he will giving the answer :smiley:

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Q0.
Do you read Dushwari post(s)?