lets say that the rishta is just about to be finalized one way or the other..
women and men folks,
what would u ur self definitely ask the opposite, for sure?
note: share only serious and sensible questions, please.
start out saying: this is what i would like to know…
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Chai mein namak kamm hai? 
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crescentttttt 
serious replies only!!
i would ask…what would u like to achieve in this life?
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I would ask…why do you want to be my husband? 
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if its from a girl, i recommend asking: rozi allah ki taraf say hay, lekin kal ko agar aapki khuda na khwasta job chali jaaye, to aapkay paas FORI raasta kia hoga?
if its from a guy, i wouldnt know.. 
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Just have a cup of tea with me :D
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My list currently contains 25 questions:D
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I asked....why do you wanna marry me...?
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hehe…my sister asked her hubby (at that time soon-to-be) that 
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potential mate, or potential spouse?
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spouse/mate baba ji.
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Becuase you are hot? Thats a pretty tough question to ask of a man. I guess asnwering that my parents forced me would also not be appropriate.
How about this, if it is arranged marraige:
“Obviously my parents know me better then I know myself. Same is true for your parents. Our parents would not have allowed this marraige if there was even a shadow of a doubt that this union would fail. I married you because I believe in my heart that you and I were made for each other and can turn this union into a blooming rose. All we have to do is work with each other, understand and love each other enough to give this rose of a marraige maximum potential to bloom.”
What do you think?
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well, hon,
here is a start...
Questions to ask by the family of the women, to the family of the potential son-in-law & to ask him before accepting him as a spouse of your daughter
Women, ask this, check it all for your ownselves!!
Do a thorough check!
The person/being of the his- age, ideas on justice, equity, honesty,
marriage, respect for women, spouse
Health - any diseases which he has
Education- highest degree he has obtained
Background- his religion, opinions, life experiences-travel around
the world
Family- information about his grand parents, parents, siblings, home-
town, people he grew up with & times or environment in which he grew up
Friends- social circles, activities, interests
Work place- address & references, & how much does he travel away from
home?
Status- national citizenship, prestige in the field due to work and
education
Any of these ills: ignorance, poverty, unjust mentality, inclined to
pleasure from treating others with cruelty, inhumane torturous nature,
doubtful, lazy, unclean, prejudiced, rigid, self-righteous, possesses a
deceptive mind, unstable, unkind, leading an unethical life-style,
then, tell him to get lost and dump himself in a sewage plant and/or
garbage field.
DO VERIFY ALL THIS.
& yes, it goes both ways - for females and for males. definitely for males.
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^Wow...unbelievable.
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yep
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most of the basic stuff...like job status, degree status, previous marriages lol, residency status......my mom would be taking care of....she is quite the investigator...she found out everything bout both my bro-in-laws thoroughly. :D even though my sisters trusted em!!
anyway the rest would be up 2 me to find out..i would find out by talking to him....finding out about his views on certain issues....especially religion.
the rest
here is a start...
Questions to ask by the family of the women, to the family of the potential son-in-law & to ask him before accepting him as a spouse of your daughter
Women, ask this, check it all for your ownselves!!
Do a thorough check!
The person/being of the his- age, ideas on justice, equity, honesty, marriage, respect for women, spouse
Health - any diseases which he has
Education- highest degree he has obtained
Background- his religion, opinions, life experiences-travel around the world
Family- information about his grand parents, parents, siblings, home- town, people he grew up with & times or environment in which he grew up
Friends- social circles, activities, interests
Work place- address & references, & how much does he travel away from home?
Status- national citizenship, prestige in the field due to work and education
Any of these ills: ignorance, poverty, unjust mentality, inclined to pleasure from treating others with cruelty, inhumane torturous nature, doubtful, lazy, unclean, prejudiced, rigid, self-righteous, possesses a deceptive mind, unstable, unkind, leading an unethical life-style, then, tell him to get lost and dump himself in a sewage plant and/or garbage field.
DO VERIFY ALL THIS.
& yes, it goes both ways - for females and for males. definitely for males.
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I would ask him which share of the household chores he wants to do ;)
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^^ And I would say, love making part.