What stops a Man from Approaching a Pretty Woman?

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you see a pretty face from across the room…

what keeps you from getting to know her?

edit: woah, this is not a personal question but i’m just trying understand desi men. many of the women here talk about the ‘pervy stare’ concept and how they get them from desi men and i guess desi women too.

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Your girlfriend/wife :bummer:

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Maybe it’s cuz she’s not as pretty as she thinks she is. :hehe:

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I’ll give a woman’s perspective:
I would never hesitate to go up to anyone if I was interested in talking. Thankfully no one ever had my attention the way my now-fiance did and of course I initiated the whole thing which led to this. Of course I noticed him after I got the hint he had a crush on me, turns out it was a hardcore/major crush, so that was fun. :wub:

So what would stop me? Lack of interest. And oh great, Noodle shoru ho gaye idher bhi.:halo: Rehm ho aap ki thread per, Nisha.

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I think it takes alot more than just a pretty face to make a guy approach you!

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is it just nerves or do they expect the pretty woman to approach them after they send subliminal messages with the stare?

i've rarely seen a desi man make a move even if he sees a pretty girl he likes,

i guess it's just not seen as decent in south asian culture.......

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That and fear of rejection. If the girl is pretty, chances are she gets approached all the time and has probably grown sick of it, so we say "why even bother?" But that never stops me :)

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Ditto. Girls need to realize making eyes at guys and acting chichori might get a get to approach you but it'll be the wrong type of guy. Eek.

Some OTT guys will gladly come over, of course those type of guys are a huge turn off. But I know a very decent couple (very islamic and wife is a hijabi and all) where the man came up to the wife and initiated a convo and thats how it started. So with the right intentions and type of guys it can be done.

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no, it’s a stupid thread topic i know, but i was just noticing when an acquaintance of mine(desi guy) saw this gorgeous girl(same religion, same culture), he isn’t so bad looking, but all he did was give her that usual desi guy stare for days. I so wanted him to approach her and talk to her

a woman wouldn’t make the first move…usually

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Fear of rejection? Or not enough interest?

I have respect for proper guys who approach girls respectfully. Doesn't usually happen with desi dudes, or even with right intentions. It's usually morons approaching you.

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I agree. It is so rare but when it happens it is refreshing.

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maybe 'cause she's a shy sort and the guy feels that and would not want to embarrass her by approaching her in a public setting where everyone else is desi..

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it's a general question. a man has to make the first move, the woman won't or can't....izzzzzat

assuming you didn't direct this comment towards me, what else does it take for a guy to approach a woman he's attracted to?

does she have to be loaded? i mean how does it even happen in desi culture if the man doesn't make the first move without seeming "too eager" or losing respect in the eyes of the woman?

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men dont approach me.

I cant decide if im hideous or stunning.

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no it was def not directed towards you as you asked a general question!

As to whatelse? well she has to look “approachable”. A guy can tell, well usually, if the girl is interested and only than wl he dare approach otherwise it doesnt sit too well in our culture :bummer:.

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alright fear of rejection but doesn't he realize that if he doesn't make the move then he might never see her again. i think this is where it's important for a man to "be a man" and if he gets rejected, it wouldn't pierce his izzat as badly as it would a woman's izzzat. don't mean to be sexist

women have to be so careful of that whole issue of izzat. other women can skin her alive if she loses it.

why leave it to fate or chance?

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awww you’re so cute :slight_smile: i think it’s cuz you’re stunning :hugz:

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:omg: OMG i love you
that statement is classic :hehe:

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how did you sense that he had a crush on you though? was it the way he looked at you?

oh no, my cute buddy was definitely interested in this girl, she was booootiful, all he had to do was move in her general direction and say “HI”. he lost the opportunity and after those few days, he never saw her again. it was sadness city for him after that. :frowning:

why didn’t your fiance make the move to strike up a convo with you since he was so in love with you?

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The former would be a safe assumption :chai: