like in matters of the deen and the duniya?
For example they try to force you to conform to their ideologies, when it comes to islam , even if for a fact you know islam tells you something else. Same with teh duniya.
Anyone have any daleels on this, any references.
Re: ~! What should one do, when his/her parents are oppressive?
i read somewhere that if for example ur parents tell u something thats against islam... dont listen to them, and that is, if u're sure that they're wrong and if u know what islam says regarding that issue.
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I agree. My parents have sometimes propogated the wrong beliefs onto me, but I believed differently. No one, not even your parents, can choose your beliefs for you. In the end, you believe what you think makes sense to you and what you think is right. Does that mean you're really right? No, but that's part of what existence means. You pick your beliefs and your actions and you pay the consequences in the end.
Re: ~! What should one do, when his/her parents are oppressive?
hmmmm...
Re: ~! What should one do, when his/her parents are oppressive?
Anyone have any daleels on this, any references.
**Your Parents have a lot more practical life experiences than you in general, so it is better not to argue with them about Idealogies, but listen and say you will do your best. **
Respect for your parents will pay of in this life and also in the Akhirah.
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^ Ibrahim a.s.'s father made idols, if he had listened to his father instead of Allah swt, would he have been paid in this life and the akhirah?
I think you get my point 
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Jesus Christ, are your parents telling you to put up a buddha statue in your bedroom?
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lol no, but i was giving an example of when and where you should draw the line...when it comes to obeying every command.
Im up for total submission, but even that has its limits, no ? or am i wrong?
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respect ur parents but if they force u to do somthing unislamic i dont think u have to do as they say
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Quran 31:15
But if they strive with thee to make thee ascribe unto Me as partner that of which thou hast no knowledge, **then obey them not.* Consort with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who repenteth unto Me. Then unto Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what ye used to do*
in the affairs of religion, there is no compromise even if ur parents r causing obstructions....
in the affairs of world, u have to obey them....
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***Even if you get frustrated by their nit picking, you still should not even say “UFF” to them, you Picked an excellent example…in Ibrahim Elahisalaam so let us take his Son ‘Ismail Elahisalam’ a teen ager and the oldest Son, he could have said “Oh my Father killing is haram”.. need I say more…
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It is not about obedience it is all about “LOVE”
Re: ~! What should one do, when his/her parents are oppressive?
Ibrahim was the Prophet of Allah and you are an ordinary man there is huge difference between the right and responsibilites of an ordinary person and prophet.
References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur’an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) on this subject. I will first quote some of the Qur’anic verses here:
“And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal.” (Chapter31: verse14)
According to the above verse, gratitude to Allah (swt) and to parents go hand in hand. Gratitude to Allah (swt) is incomplete without showing gratitude to one’s parents. Since being grateful to Allah (swt) is a form of *ibadah *(worship) which earns heavenly rewards, it can therefore be said that being grateful to one’s parents also earns heavenly rewards.
Some of the traditions of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), and of the learned members of his family, about our responsibilities toward our parents are quoted here:
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I dont think respecting your parents means total submission; i think you hold your own and still be respectful. There is a hadith to that states;
*'The child is the master for [the first] seven years and a slave for [the next] seven years and a vizier [Advisor] for [the following] seven years; so if he builds a good character within 21 years, well and good, otherwise leave him alone because you have discharged your responsibility before Allah (swt)'.
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Crescent i think it all depends on the situation! If they are telling you to do something that totally goes against the folds of islam (which im sure isnt the case..am i right?) then you have to do what u have to do...meaning choose the right path because you will be held accountable for your actions alone.
I cant advise you on anything else other then what ive already mentioned until i know the details. (hint hint)
from my experience when it comes to worldly matters my parents were always right in the end.....it took me this long to realize it.
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'The child is the master for [the first] seven years and a slave for [the next] seven years and a vizier [Advisor] for [the following] seven years; so if he builds a good character within 21 years, well and good, otherwise leave him alone because you have discharged your responsibility before Allah (swt)'.
interesting....reference plz. thanks :)
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hmm..