he has had this online relationship with a girl, and he really likes her and all.
he was ready to send his parents to the girl's when she dropped the bomb.
she had told him that she was 22 but now she said that actually she is 16 and that she is afraid her parents would go nuts.
now my friend is puzzled and confused. on one hand, he has the feeling that he found the perfect girl, but then he thinks he was cheated or something. he feels sort of guilty having courted a teenage girl.
well now she's explained why she lied. they're still both obviously talking and they like each other and they're in pakistan....why is this even an issue any longer? they can get married and live happily ever after. end of story
well now she's explained why she lied. they're still both obviously talking and they like each other and they're in pakistan....why is this even an issue any longer? they can get married and live happily ever after. end of story
Op, tell your friend to meet her in person if he hasn't already and sort out the issues....ask her about any other doubts that are in his mind......and take it from there. He will have a more clearer/concrete idea that way rather than just basing his decision on forum opinions.
he has had this online relationship with a girl, and he really likes her and all.
he was ready to send his parents to the girl's when she dropped the bomb.
she had told him that she was 22 but now she said that actually she is 16 and that she is afraid her parents would go nuts.
now my friend is puzzled and confused. on one hand, he has the feeling that he found the perfect girl, but then he thinks he was cheated or something. he feels sort of guilty having courted a teenage girl.
so what should he do?
Your friend's story reminds me of the movie "Trust", except that the roles are reversed here.
IMO, in any online relationship, trust is the key factor. And if trust is broken, there isn't much left to hang on to.
what does it matter if its me or my friend?? …btw if it was me, i wouldn’t fall for a girl just like that…even if i did…i would go just go and dump her a$$
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As i said, the guy is just weighing his options before he takes a step. Thats why i opened this thread.**
Online life and daily life are kinda different. People who click online may be morons in real life, you can't tell. It isn't about how he was misguided or all. The only point is what to do now and I would suggest that the man should act wise and explain it to the girl and leave, walk away.
i agree...my cousin who is 20 now her classmates who are her age look between 14-15 to 25-27 and they are all probably 19-21
Amir Khan can look 18 in the movies. It is not about the looks..It is about the maturity level. The maturity levels are so different and this guy and his friends are both morons if they did not know that they were dealing with a girl who was much younger..
A joke on this subject while we are fueling the fire..
A father had 3 daughters and all of them were marriageable age.. A suitor came in and the dad told him this
"My first daughter earns 80k, Second one 60 k and the youngest 40k"... The suitor chose one of the girls. Which one did he choose..
He chose the girl with the biggest eyes(you know what I mean !!!).. Nothing else matters. I think it is the same here with this OP and his friend. He just looked at her assets and nothing else I suppose.
I don't know about what your friend should do but I know what YOU should do for your friend: Buy him some rope. ;) Oh, he'll get the message as to what he should do.
how many other guys is this girl chatting to? If she can lie to one person… you sugggesting she is a ‘‘s word’’ ?? is she actually a girl?! LMAO…this one takes the cake…you think she might be shemale or a cross dressing guy :rolleyes:…pray tell how should he make sure that?? i am waiting for your ‘validation’ method.
is any of the info she gave true?
What type of family does she come from? Are they ultra conservative and this girl is looking for attention in the wrong places to rebel?
Does her family know about her online activities and ALLOW her to do this? Because that’s just nasty!...wait there…they didn’t sext or do camsex…only talking…why are you suggesting that they did some haram act?
…and like a millions other quesions as I would be thinking the girl is taking my friend for a ride on the mug mobil!
Firstly dude needs to go get some sherbat and chaat and calm the heck down. You asked for opinions bro; and from experience I can tell you what I wrote isn’t that unusual however your translation of it was highly amusing.
Firstly, I never suggested the person was a shemale. I was thinking along the lines that maybe the ‘girl’ is actually a guy who set up a profile out of boredom and well when it got too heavy decided to say he was 16 to get out of the situ. I was at this stage thinking your ‘friend’ hadn’t met said person so this can happen.
Plus if you read I said IF this was my friend this is what I would be thinking. All possible avenues would need covering; I’d hate for my friend to fall flat on their face should the above be the explaination.
As for Haram act. Seriously dude I will leave that down to your defination of contact and haram is different to mine. Personally the family I was raised in would never allow for their son or daughter to lie to someone and play with their feelings to an extent that this person did-Fact. Thus I raised the questions of if said person comes from a conservative family potentially going for a ristaa there could be agro. If they are a family that allow their children to do such things on the internet e.g. lie then I’m sorry but I don’t see why your friend would even attempt to build a relationship there if he had the option to leave.
And as for talking to someone in isolation and haram acts-talking to someone of the opposite sex that is not your mehrem alone on the phone/in person/on the internet isn’t acceptable by the standards I was taught on Islam. Sorry I must belong in the stone ages compared to the modern shorden people of Pakistan but there you go. I would not give my blessings to my kids to lie to another person; playing with peoples feelings etc in MHO is NASTY. You clearly read into it from a different ‘angle’. Personally that’s a different realm to mine.
I am however beginning to wonder if Stormraiser sussed you out before me.
…btw if it was me, i wouldn’t fall for a girl just like that…even if i did…i would go just go and dump her a$$
