Re: What should I do? 
LOL. I hate to break it to you but in a desi marriage, family DOES matter. It’s not about just the husband/wife. The woman is marrying into the guy’s family…the guy into the woman’s. And the whole “I’m sure my family would understand me marrying someone I live even if that’s not someone they would pick” is an assumption on your part. Being un-married, it’s an assumption you have not tested. As I said already, plenty of women on this forum alone married into a family where they knew they weren’t the “top choice”. Drama didn’t stop after nikah just b/c the in-laws love their son. My own husband felt the exact same way about his parents…that they love him unconditionally & will accept me b/c he’s happy. He found out the hard way after marriage that he was wrong.
Go get married 1st to someone who your parents don’t want as their #1 choice and then come back and tell us how your parents treat accepted her without drama b/c of their love for you. Oh and also, get married first and then find out just how much it’s just you and the wife.
My point wasn’t phone vs. texting. My point was the duration of time and what’s been talked about.