What should I do? :(

Ahmed_Fayyaz · June 16, 2013, 9:17am

Re: What should I do?

Hello I would appreciate all your guys’ help and opinions on this as I am confused and you can say getting a bit emotional on this matter. About a month ago, a rishta came for me and his side wanted us to talk beforehand (see if we have an understanding, to get to know one another etc.). My parents agreed and the guy and I talked on the phone for the first time and decided to keep in touch. We texted back and fourth and talked on the phone just once again. Our texts exchanged were long and he would share his daily details with me, joke around and we were just at ease & ourselves with each other. We got along great and started to understand each other. I started to think that he might be ‘the one’. We were on the same page for a lot of important things such as: Islam, future, goals, family, culture etc. It wasn’t constant crazy texting. We would give each other a couple of days off then text to see how things were and end up talking via texts all evening or day. He lives in another city (about 10 hr drive) so we thought if anything was to happen, both sides could have met in the summer iA. But then a few days ago, his side called and told my mom how there’s another family in the same city which he lives in that turned out to be their far relatives. That girl’s family is putting pressure on them to fix their rishta since they are related. I was sad not going to lie when I found this out. I have talked to guys before regarding this rishta/shaadi process but he is the only one so far that I’ve felt a connection with. After I found that out, I texted him my well wishes for him and his future and he did the same. However, I still think about it. I want to know his answer and not his family’s. Maybe he felt the same, I don’t know? Might be stupid but I want to email him and let him know how I feel and ask for his answer. I don’t know if he went ahead with the rishta and the baat-paki happened or not. If he’s happy and wants to go ahead with the other one then I’ll be respectful and happy and let it be Take a risk and see what he thinks. I don’t know if I should email or just let it be and ignore. Any advice and opinions my fellow guppians?

I can understand what you are going trough.Its crazy how some people have strong attraction that even if intentionally want to repel, we just cant.Give yourself some time and hopefully you will get over him.