Hi everyone!
Ok so, as i had mentioned in my previous thread that, after registering on a matrimonial site I met a guy there, and like,after trying to get to know him a little,I did meet him face-to-face,accompanying two of my friends.Ok, so the meeting did go well.
After the meeting, he tells me that he is interested to take it further with him,but,he would like to involve his parents only after few months when his business would start doing well which isn’t so good right now due to the economical condition,recession,etc.He had told me this before also in the beginning when we were getting to know each other before the meeting.
So, what do you suggest what should i be doing?I just don’t want that i should be wasting time on someone who isn’t serious and may just lead me on and at the end i would get nothing.,and i’ve told him this.So, he asks me that how do i want to take it further, though he says he would involve his parents only after few months and not right now.
He seems to be a nice,decent guy.He seems to be a serious type.But i don’t know what to do.Please advice and suggest.
Tell him that you want parents to be involved or else you wont be going further. Everyone is facing some kind of economical situation at the moment. and if he is educated and has been doing good in past, dont think ur parents will dislike him or reject him based on his current temporary situation.
I think u shudnt meet him at all incase it becomes a waste of time. just talk to him on phone sumtimez. wait till parents are involved. sorry to say sum ppl love to waste time on net, u dont wanna be hurt.
but if u still do want to meet up always do with a mate coz that way no mistakes will occur. take care.
I dun understand the dependency b/w being financially stable n involving the parents. If he has a genuine reason then it makes sense otherwise he's just wasting ur time
I would advise that you not meet him in person anymore. Tell him that you understand his business needs to do well, but you two can be engaged during that time. Or at least have the rishta unofficially/officially fixed by the parents. Ask him to tell his parents about you two, have the parents meet your parents. If not that, have him meet your parents. You don't want to waste your time on this guy. Your parents might accept him but will likely advise you to wait for better financial conditions and to stay open to other rishtas.
Well, imo, u need to give the guy a little break. lets be honest, when he does meet ur parents, the first thing they would want to know his how financially stable is he? and seeing that he isn't so much stable currently, they might even refuse. Anyways, I think that he is actually thinking like a mature man by telling u to wait a few months so he can be financially stable before getting the families involved. Sometimes, it can also be about ones self respect and pride. He probably does not want his first impression on ur parents to come as "not stable to support their daughter". I think that is a very smart move on his part. Besides, u need to know him a little better urself before u move things up a notch. I mean, its good to talk to a person for a few months before actually deciding to marry them. u do not have to meet him if u choose not to, just a few casual meetings where u can bring ur friends and he can bring his can work too. You can keep this limited to phone/online chat until he feels ready.
And c'mon, he only asked for a few months. Don't make assumptions and judge him as being a bad person or not serious cuz he asked for a few months... srsly...
So, should I just hang up or I should give him a little time and see what happens?!What would you advice?
Don't give up on him. Just tell him that you would prefer that he at least tell his parents about you or he meet your parents. Let him know that you'll wait on him, but during this wait you will not meet him. Maybe speak over the phone, that's it. Use coming from a conservative family and doing things the right way as a reason. If he's a good guy, he'll understand, he won't push you, and will try to improve his business. He'll need a few months anyways for his business, so an immediate nikkah is most likely out of the picture. During the time, also see other rishtas to be sure that you want to settle with the internet guy.
meet someone else and compare? i do not really know how private talking about rishta works... I though the guy always has to talk to his parents first for things to go further