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in our culture, people think it's okay to harass a young boy/girl with rishtas, then they think it's okay to let the entire world know who's getting married as soon as they find out, then they think it's okay to just invite yourself to someone's wedding without any notice, some even go to the extent of thinking it's okay to drag more uninvited guests along with them to that shaadi and then there are those rishtaydaars, dost and muhallay walay who will hold a grudge against the families for the rest of their lives because they didn't get told or invited to someone's shaadi.
so contrary to what goes on in our desi culture, we do NOT have a right to just interfere in anyone's shaadi business! so what if it's a happy occasion? it is also an extremely personal and intimate one
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I couldn't agree more. Especially about the people holding grudges for the rest of their lives because that's literally what happens.
Lakki, I think you should give your friend the benefit of the doubt. Despite the way things work in our culture, there are still a lot of private people out there who simply like keeping things private. Or something else could be going on. I had a friend who met her fiance not too long after her father passed away. Neither she nor her family felt comfortable with a big hoopla, so they did a very quiet engagement (just immediate family at a small restaurant). I can tell you a lot of people blew their tops over this...but she genuinely wasn't trying to "cut people out." She was simply trying to keep things low key out of respect - and grief - for her father.