what should i do

Hi Everyone,

i am from toronto and recently got married. here is a situation… wen i moved to toronto about 10 yrs back i had school friends but after a while we lost contact bcuz everbody got married etc. so since i came to toronto i just didnt make any friends. so on one day my co-workers were talking about friends and i told them that i dont have any except my husband… now they are after me that i should find a friend ( female friend) that is. and they are telling me join different clubs eg cooking classes etc so i can meet new people. the problem is if i make any friend who is english. we’ll have so much of cultural diff. however i do wanna make friends… what should i do??

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Make female friends on gs that are from Toronto. Problem solved :D

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Surprisingly true. When I moved to Toronto from the UK 3 years ago, most of my friends at first were guys from Gupshup who live in Toronto.

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who cares bout cultural differences
get out of ur desi bubble and
make friends !!!

or simply…join facebook:chai:

may be u’ll find ur school friends there!!

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so dont make 'english' friends if u care about the cultural diff. ... there are PLENTY of Desis available on every gali n nukkar of toronto, make them friends.

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well the reason i dont wanna make frnds from here cuz even wen i talk to my co-workers i have to first tell them how things are done in our culture and sometimes they do understand and sometimes they just tell me stuff that i wud never do... and i dont wanna make frnds just off the street i dont know abt

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you're in toronto right? what area of toronto? the suburbs are usually filled with desis, so even if you do join the classes or whatever, chances are there are usually more desis there than non-desis. your local community center must have some programs of some sorts, where you can go to meet people. also go to your local masjid, and talk to some of the people there. it's a great place to meet people who are not only of your cultural background, but also religion, so that aspect of religion isn't big of a concern either. i know pretty much all the masjids in GTA have iftar programs, and they hold jumas, and have dars classes or whatever, so more oppurtunities for you.

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i agree with khumar....

doesnt ur husband have any friends who are married? why not their wives?

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I also moved when i got married but luckily hubs had a lot of friends from the masjid and we started getting together as families and i am friends with their wives. Then i started meeting others in the masjid whose husbands arent regulars (most of the paki community isnt very regular in the masjid) but we kinda started meeting and i have made some good friends this way. Maybe you can do the same through some cooking classes etc.

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i don't go to masjid ... i just pray at home.... my husband has alot of frnds but they are HIS friends ... even with their wives i cant b open about things.

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well now you have an excuse to go to the masjid :D go with your hubby to pray at the masjid, and just socialize.

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i met a lot of pple at the masjids that i go to....its the place to be!

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Aman I feel the same way....do u have kids??? I think it is important for kids to meet within desi community. Where I live there is a huge desi community but dont know very many ppl. I am so anti-social

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i have only been married for 1 month... so no kids yet.... where i have moved to after getting married its a highly desi populated community. i am not social as wel

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where did u move to? sauga? brampton? scar? there are enough desis there....

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i am at the very end of etobicoke

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north or south? south is close to mississauga....north....brampton/woodbridge...

both places have excellent masjids...

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its close to mississauga